Can someone provide me with any Quranic verses or Hadith that support marriage of one’s own choice? I once read somewhere that Allah says that if your parents take unjust advantage of their rights over you, you as a man have the God-given right to go against what they want for you (marriage-wise)… can someone provide me with more basis for my argument?
Thanks 
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nobody? :(
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yes you can get married by your own choice, however the way you see your rishta's should be through a guardian!
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I have read in Bukhari, something along the lines of: The widow and the divorced women shall not marry unless they wish to, and the virgin shall not marry unless she wishes to.
Don't know the exact hadith #, but this refers only to women.
Heres a Verse from the Quran:
"Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner."
(2: 232)
This also refers only to women.
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ok thank you very much, but my problem is my parents are not willing to be more openminded about this. The girl Mash'Allah is very shareef, and has no bad habits, but my parents are the kind of people who follow culture more than religion unfortunately and I'm having a hard time going about with this.
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Oh i see! Did you try to get your parents to meet with thier parents? Maybe they will get to see that her family is quite nice!
p.s. Jazakh'ALLAH Khair lahore ka cheetah for the quotes...
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No they never met her or anything, but are too proud to even go meet them.
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Surah Baqara Ayat 221Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters), until they believe: A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allures you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allures you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: That they may celebrate His praise.
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Sorry bro was looking for the verse in Surah Nisa, read it wrong thanks for pointing out the mistake. I did it in a haste.SubhanAllaah. May Allaah forgive me.
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^ slaveofAllah, what do these verses have in relation to the topic being discussed??? 
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AOA WRWB your_angel:
Key point: Balance b/w gaurdians choice and bride / grooms consent must be maintained. Gaurdians should not force unreasonable proposals as well as children not showing disdain without reason.
Here you go (read here for detail) but specifically the verse of consent:
Ijbar: A Safety Valve
The consent of both the man and the women is an essential element of marriage, and the Qur’an gives women a substantial role in choosing their own life partners. It lays down: (Surah Al Baqarah Verse 232)[The verse is in context of divorce but has its application in general as well as far as meaning)**Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner. (2: 232)**However, Imam Malik, one of the four great Imams of the Sunni schools of Islamic jurisprudence, gives a slightly restrictive interpretation to this verse and makes the choice of partner by a Muslim girl subject to the over-ruling power or ijbar of her father or guardian in the interests of the girl herself.
Also,
“Do not inherit women against their will” (4:19)
And in Hadith we find traditions like the following:
(detials)“Khansa bint Khidhan who had a previous marriage, related that when her father married her and she disapproved of that, she went to the Messenger of God and he revoked her marriage.” (Bukhari, Ibn Majah)
“A [girl who was not married] came to the Messenger of God and mentioned that her father had married her against her will, so the Prophet allowed her to exercise her choice.” (Abu Da’ud, on the authority of Ibn 'Abbas)
May Allah guide Us (ameen)!WAllahu Alam (Allah knows best)
