Salaam Wrt Wb a few questions have been disturbing me since quite some time… well since i started posting on GS…so i thought i’l ask…
- is chatting (just simple friendly talk)to na-mehram guys(u’ve never seen like the GS guppies) as wrong as talking to na-mehram in real life …
- is posting in cafe’ & talking to guys & girls there equally wrong…if yes…then wht abt the serious sections where we ask others opinions & @ times ask for solutions to our problems…& in turn we do talk to guys there…(reply to posts & comment on posts etc)
- wht abt chatting with a guppy who is increasing ur islamic knowledge…
plz answer the above 3questions from an islamic point of view…& answer each question seperately…& not collectively…
well these questions may sound foolish…but since i joined GS(GS being the only forum i ever posted in)…my conscience kept telling me tht wht i’m doing is wrong…but i kept justifying myself by thinking tht i’m not really talking…i’m only typing messages right!!!
but then a few days ago i was asked a question by one of the 1st guppies i talked to**…“what have you become”…**n when i understood the context in which i was asked tht question…i thought abt it…n cried a lot…thinking abt the wrong i’m doing… wht i’ve become…before GS i was so pure n childish…
…i’d never ever done anything tht wrong in life…i had never talked to guys unecessarily before GS…i had never chatted with ppl i donno…
…& only worried abt homework & dresses & stuff…& now everytime i look @ abbu jaan i feel ashamed…i think wht if abbu jaan comes to know abt GS..he will be soo heart broken…tht his almost perfect daughter did something he will be ashamed of… so plz answer the above questions with hadeeth or quranic verses if possible…
**PS:i wrote th last 2 paragraphs too so tht ppl don’t think tht i’m pointing fingers @ anyone…this is only for my satisfaction & knowledge…
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As long as you stay on topic and don’t mingle wid gender of opposite sex on forums its fine. Its all good in the hood. Chatting (aim, yahoo, paltalk, etc) with non mahram is foribidden in Islam. No matter what it is about. By the end of the day it will lead to something worse than that. As in Haraam actions. Especially, private conversations sucks. Wether its an email or messengers.
^^ [Sara and IR] WOW..
Dear Srs..
Man.... I don't know what to tell you. But the fact is that many scholars don't agree with mixing of sexes even on the internet.
Now, Taqwah tried to answer one question regarding islamic learning..
but what about all the other stuff...
like all ur posts in cafe'...
To be very honest, most scholars of any fiqh will tell you to limit that stuff. mond you I am being diplomatic here. They will tell you to stay away from it.
Why?
The mere fact that when two non-mehrams are there, the third one is the devil. (this is from an authentic hadeeth).
Now we will think that we are not actually with each other, but contact such as the one on cafe will effect you. The younger you are the more it will. Also the effect will vary from individual to individual depending upon their spiritual condition. If they are engaged in act of worship that cleanse their hearts daily the effect will be much less. On the other hand if they are doing such ebadah they will be wary of interaction in forums or the internet.
So I guess there is no clear answer for you. Like taqwah said, keep it limited to the point and keep it confined to learning. Interact with other friends of the same sex. Many times we don't know so we can ask whether the person is male or female.
Walaikum Assalam WR WB
sara the way i see it...if you dont talk to men in person or on the phone...then you shouldnt be doing it online either (via msn, yahoo). However i dont see anything wrong with posting on a forum because you can refrain from talking one on one with a man whereas on msn, yahoo you cant. Also u can actually learn from others on here as well (believe it or not).
Just keep in mind we are only here on Earth for a short time....therefore our time should be spent in dhikr (rememberance of Allah)....any time we spend on useless talk is time wasted.
Now...if only i can keep reminding myself this very same thing!!
No matter if wat u percieve wat ur doing as a major/minor/not a sin, if you feel uncomfortable and guilty for doing it, **better to stop **than to desensitize yourself to it that you end up doing worse things...
Also, I should tell you that asking for (serious) advice on a message board, you shouldn't take into account whether the advice is coming from a man or a woman...AND you should also know, you can't always trust that the other person ure tlaking to is really a girl.. u cant trust anyone online..