It’s good to ask question but I can tell you from my experience that people bluff. I asked same question " what made you send a rishta for me ? " he said "I like your simplicity , you way of dressing up and that you are educated " and these same things became so much problem for him afterwards , He said to me I am too simple he wants his wife to wear RED everyday , I don’t do fashion and that I am educated thats why I think high of myself lol
I can guarantee you that asking question is most of the times a useless exercise esp if the person you are dealing with has narcissistic personality disorder. I know I am exaggerating over here but it’s more common than you can expect.
Pray to Allah that He guides you to make a right decision , He know things that we can never know.
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