So what’s the drill? What did you guys ask if it was a prospective Rishta guy or girl.I am talking from the Rishtedar’s side like sister or brother of the Mom and Dad.
Oh Yes this is After the usual information.
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Well, if you have already gone through the basic "Biodata" then you already know the nitty gritty.
I would ask what this person does in their spare time. Any activities, hobbies, interests, lifestyle, friends (a person's friends say a lot), this person is involved in. I would ask to see how much culture and religion play a part in his/her life, how connected they are, if they are social and to what extent, etc.
Im sure there is a lot more but its all I can think of right now...
:-)
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I would facebook/myspace/friendster/naseeb them to see what they are really like :D
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ask them their bank balance and annual income, but seriosly PSquared's answer is good
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you dont need to ask anything.. invite him over for a dinner.. his actions/personality will speak for himself. Sometimes everything turns out fine for the guy in terms of shareef, religious, educated and what not but once you see them in person, their manners, their way of talking, their personality turns it all off!!!
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Some of the questions I've heard asked - do you drink alcohol, have you EVER drank alcohol, have you ever eaten pork, have you ever had a relationship with a member of the opposite sex (if yes, provide all details), are you a virgin, do you pray 5 times daily.
:)....Why aren't you dressed right..............??????
Some of the questions I've heard asked - do you drink alcohol, have you EVER drank alcohol, have you ever eaten pork, have you ever had a relationship with a member of the opposite sex (if yes, provide all details), are you a virgin, do you pray 5 times daily.
ARE YOU SERIOUS?????
:CareBear:
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^ Let me add: Do you snore, and most importantly do you still wet your bed!
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My mum asks all the questions about the other family. I handle the questions about the girl. Including (though the phrasing is more polite, this is what I'm after)
Do you only eat halal meat? (first meeting question)
What/where did you study? (first meeting question)
What is your job? (first meeting question)
What do you like doing for fun? (first meeting question)
How religious are you? (teased out during follow up talks)
I would facebook/myspace/friendster/naseeb them to see what they are really like :D
Done:D
Well, if you have already gone through the basic "Biodata" then you already know the nitty gritty.
I would ask what this person does in their spare time. Any activities, hobbies, interests, lifestyle, friends (a person's friends say a lot), this person is involved in. I would ask to see how much culture and religion play a part in his/her life, how connected they are, if they are social and to what extent, etc.
Im sure there is a lot more but its all I can think of right now...
:-)
How would you ask about friends, like what do they do.I do think the thing about friends is really important.
Good points Thankyou:)
I have eard that meetings should be at a nuetral place.If someone has to travel to meet, when would be a good time to ask them to:hmmm:
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It sounds like you are looking for formal questions and not just conversational ones...right?
ARE YOU SERIOUS?????
:CareBear:
YES!!! actually, these are SOME of the questions asked of my hubby in the days before we got together - and they're part of the reason that he decided against an arranged marriage :) Thank goodness and lucky ME lol!! I never asked any of these things :)
It sounds like you are looking for formal questions and not just conversational ones...right?
Actually I dont even know how it should be, I dont know if it should be conversational or formal at this point:(
My mum asks all the questions about the other family. I handle the questions about the girl. Including (though the phrasing is more polite, this is what I'm after)
Do you only eat halal meat? (first meeting question) What/where did you study? (first meeting question) What is your job? (first meeting question) What do you like doing for fun? (first meeting question) How religious are you? (teased out during follow up talks)
Now give a list of the second/third meeting or talk on the phone if they dont live close:)
I wouldn't ask questions at all. People lie, about everything! Just have a general conversation, they are more likely to slip up during a conversation than a question and answer session which they will have prepared answers for. Its ok to say 'im such a nice person' without actually showing that you are.
My only question is M&M's or Smarties?
They get that one wrong all the time and then you just know that they are evil through and through.