So over 5 years ago I had this friend we used to hang out together and go to school together. Well one day she moved and that too to another country…of course a western country. She at first talked to me and emailed me here and there. But then all of a sudden she stopped. She hasn’t spoken to me in at all or attempted to for at least 4 years. Now a friend of mine who also knew her added her to a social network such as orkut, facebook, myspace, etc. Then my friend comes and tells me she was asking about me and wants to add me. I check my email and she has a request to be added…in this situation what do u do? I really don’t have any grudges or hard feelings against her, but I don’t want to get involved in something that we had in the past…since our families used to meet at one point but then once their family moved they stopped meeting us, calling etc…so it seemed like they used to meet us for the purpose of only using us to get their work done. And how do I know that is because they called other ppl in our community that they used to also meet.
So what should I do?
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I think its better you accept her invitation. You never know what her reason would be for not calling. Be a good fren and support and extend your hand for frenship once more since she didnt do anything to harm you. Don't assume or expect - just go for it. Not rocket science or something.
Also, if you dont feel comfortable then do it. No one can make u do it. If I were you, I would have accepted her invi, no harm.
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Just start with formal hi , hello
and then gradually move forward ..
you dont have to start with where you finished ..
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Just start with formal hi , hello
and then gradually move forward ..
you dont have to start with where you finished ..
i agree:)
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so umm did you or your family tried to stay in contact with them? or was it assumed to be all their responsibility?
anyways... i don't think there is any harm in adding your friend.
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Accept it. And if its not as you want it, then simply cut off :)
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Aray merey pyaari bahna, have a big heart. You do not like her behavior , right ? so why not behave in a way you like to behave , meaning being nice to everyone no matter what kind of friend or acquaintance they are. You will loose nothing by being nice to her, instead you will gain a kind of spiritual calm by being nice to someone who has not been nice to you. Try it please it works.
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whattttttttttttttttttttt
she want to talk so talk to her.
What so complicated about it?? yeah other than you both are girls.
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hollllly cow .. this is NOT even an ISSUE.. move on.. there are other things in life to be worried about... jeez larki.. go make some khana..
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not everything in life has to be an "issue" it could just be general discussion and that is what I am doing.
I agree with what some of you are saying...but I guess I just have to hold myself back from getting too attached or going above and beyond.
And my family did not try contacting them because when they moved we didn't know any of their info, address, phone #, etc.
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hmmm just accept the invite
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if u dnt hold any grudges etc. just add her , thr is nt much else 2 it. If its in facebook that shes added u put her on a limited profile, that its simple :)
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did you try to keep up with her? did you try to communicate with her and she didnt' reply? or were you as busy in life as she got and now that she has settled down with life and had a chance to track you down.. you have issues with her?
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just add her there's no harm in that and if later on you feel like she's not being honest or something you can always just block.........but you never may be she's changed and realizes what a great friend you were and now wants to be friends again.......you can just start out by making small talk and see where it goes from there..........really it's not a hard of a thing to do......there should be other more important things that you should be worried about lol