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[eastern11]

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No, this guy is bad news! Stay away! He couldnt handle his wife’s sickness? There is treatment for post partum depression! Nothing wrong with having a child. My own friend married a guy like that and is very happy with him. But that guy is compassionate , this guy frankly does not seem to be.

@PyariCgudia

I typically do not either but he didn’t include this bit in his profile. He says people automatically don’t talk to him. So he leaves it out. And brings it up in the conversation.

I felt bad for the guy. It’s not that he isn’t involved. He just can’t work his long hours plus take care of her here with her being a baby. So his mom took care of her and then his ex swooped in when the kid was 4 and decided to take her back. So they allowed it since she is the mom. And she lets the boys parents take the child on the weekends. He flies a few times in the year to India to see her.

What bothered me more was he said he couldn’t take it when she went into postpartum psychosis. I said…dude, that’s a medical problem.

Tomorrow if I hit my head and develop a seizure problem or intermittent hallucinations he will throw me out too? This girl had her parents to go back to what if she had no one??

[Paheli00]

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@PyariCgudia

I felt bad for the guy. It’s not that he isn’t involved. He just can’t work his long hours plus take care of her here with her being a baby. So his mom took care of her and then his ex swooped in when the kid was 4 and decided to take her back. So they allowed it since she is the mom. And she lets the boys parents take the child on the weekends. He flies a few times in the year to India to see her.

Frankly that’s just B.S. There are thousands and thousands of single parents, mothers and fathers, who manage to raise a baby on their own in the U.S. without any help. Of course, use of daycare and nannies are needed until the child starts school, and the parents don’t have much of a social life…but it can be done. For him to ship the girl overseas and not move back to India himself is ridiculous. If a single parent, mom or dad, has a genuine interest in raising their own child, then they make it happen. Of course, for people who are not willing to make the necessary sacrifices, there are easier options like shipping the child to someone else.

@PyariCgudia

What bothered me more was he said he couldn’t take it when she went into postpartum psychosis. I said…dude, that’s a medical problem. Tomorrow if I hit my head and develop a seizure problem or intermittent hallucinations he will throw me out too? This girl had her parents to go back to what if she had no one??

Of course he will throw you out. LOL…that’s a no brainer. Raising a baby as a single-dad is too inconvenient for him to he shipped his own biological daughter to dada/dadi. First wife’s postpartum psychosis became too inconvenient so he shipped her off to a hospital and then back to her parents. This guy is a poster child for not handling stressful situations. When something becomes “too much”, he’s out. Forget hitting your head or mental issues…can you imagine if you get cancer or end up in a accident and paralyzed? A guy like this isn’t going to hang around to take care of you or anyone else.

[Deeba1234]

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^Agree..

He complained ex-wife didn’t do enough housework whilst she was pregnant?!! Maybe she wasn’t well back then.. He doesn’t sound the nicest person.. I think you were giving him too much credit PCG.. I’d be worried if someone talked about their ex the way he did..