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PyariCgudia · March 3, 2015, 7:12pm

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It takes a very generous man or woman to accept a child from their spouse’s first marriage. I’m impressed by those who are open-minded enough to do so, or at least those that do so and are fair and equitable to the children.

But as an aside, what would you say if a future MIL was trying to “sell” the merits of her divorced son’s marriagibility by saying that the new wife need not worry about his kids from the first marriage, because he only saw them once a week and the new wife wouldn’t have to deal with the kids - the father would keep them away from the stepmom.

Oh, and the icing on the cake! The new wife need not worry about child support since he only paid a few hundred dollars per child - so it wouldn’t affect the happily married couple’s finances. Sounds like a prince, right?

Yeah this is true. In his case, the daughter is in India with his parents, and recently, one year ago, the girls’ mom decided to get involved and fight for custody. They are “powerful political” family, so the guy’s family doesn’t fight them. They handed the child over without a problem, and thankfully the girl’s family is not unjust. They let the child hang out on weekends with the boy’s parents. The guy doesn’t get to see the kid or family much, because he lives in the States.

Just a messed up situation overall honestly. But yes, he would support his child, and he has a total right to do that. Any girl entering into this marriage, needs to accept the child, even if they’re living in India, as their own daughter.

Later on, child may want to come here for schooling, college, etc, and may need help with tuition, financing, etc.

I dunno, the whole thing is just whack honestly. I don’t get why people get into marriages where they haven’t had conversations with the girl prior to marriage. That will be your WIFE, would it kill you to spend time with that person and get to know them??