Lets say there is some guy who is a potential rishta and baat pakki hogayi hai but the mangni still has not happened yet. Is it normal to exchange gifts or for him to give you anything on Eid? Oh and should you give him something too?
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**potential rishta and baat pakki ho gai hai?
islami point of view se to zabaan de di to baat pakki ho gai. engagement yaa engagement ring kaa koi concept nahiiN...jab tak nikaah na ho jaaye shara'an kuchh nahiiN. laRkaa larkii ke liye naa maHram hai
kiuN nahiiN...agar dost ko gift de sakte haiN to kiuN nahiiN...**
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Mera matlab hai ke rishta came and baat paaki hoagayi hai but not yet engaged formally.
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if you talk to the potential guy ...i dont see any harm in gifts....cmon its just gifts nothing else....but it depends on ur understanding with the guy.......n his mentality....u dont want to give him wrong ideas......
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Yeh that's true.
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engagement is a very nice western tradition that some pakistani's have also adopted. But it is not a necessary thing. "Baat Paki Hogaye" carries a lot of weight in our culture... it is the equivalent of engagement. So its not the issue of you being engaged formally yet....
But you should evaluate what type of family he comes from and what his mentality is. If you both have not really talked much at all and it is a very formal and arranged thing at this point ...then I agree with Zara that you do not want to give him the wrong idea of being too forward.
Even though I am not engaged, meri baat paki hogayi and he has given me Eid presents. But we are not having an arranged marriage...so it all depends on the understanding between the couple. My cousin is formally engaged for two years and her fiance and she have never exchanged gifts of any sort. Her future mother in law does bring her something on eid though.
engagement is a very nice western tradition that some pakistani's have also adopted. But it is not a necessary thing. "Baat Paki Hogaye" carries a lot of weight in our culture... it is the equivalent of engagement. So its not the issue of you being engaged formally yet....
But you should evaluate what type of family he comes from and what his mentality is. If you both have not really talked much at all and it is a very formal and arranged thing at this point ...then I agree with Zara that you do not want to give him the wrong idea of being too forward.
Even though I am not engaged, meri baat paki hogayi and he has given me Eid presents. But we are not having an arranged marriage...so it all depends on the understanding between the couple. My cousin has been formally engaged for two years and her fiance and she have never exchanged gifts of any sort. Her future mother in law does bring her something on eid though. So sometimes it also is just a matter of family traditions.
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Aww congrats on your baat pakki hogayi and I agree it does have a lot of weight. Thanks for your input on the matter.
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thank you babe! congrats to you as well :) you are very welcome for the input.
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Hehe! :)
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I think the gifts exchange (either on eid or birthdays) should be left to the parents/in laws before the nikkah. Sometimes an innocent gesture can create a rift if not handled properly.