okay so I have a question. The thing is that I married into an indian family (muslim) and I am a pakistani, so keeping that in mind just today I got an email from my mother in law, well, more like a forward email which is this article written by (pakistani author) Farrukh Saleem
… Now I am just wondering why would she forward it to me? Obviously all it does is praises India and there are comparisons made between both the countries, whatsoever. I honestly don’t have an issue with whatever there is in the article, but I didn’t really like the fact that she forwarded it to me. I am just trying to comprehend the reason why would she do something like that? Am I over analyzing something trivial, or would you be a little offended as well?
Not that its a big deal, but I guess I probably wasn’t expecting something like this. Oh, and I never get any forwarded emails from her, this is the first one. Would appreciate your views.
Maybe she wants you to come and support the other side. Just roll your eyes and move on... I'm indian and if I got a paki version of that email from a pakistani person, i'd just roll my eyes and say whatever. I would even say that to this article, which is so one sided anyway. Like it makes a difference.
I don't think u should waste your energy thinking about something like this ... shez obviously proud of being and indian and your a proud paki ... so let her do her thing and u do ur own thing and not think about it much
Don't dwell on it. It's not worth it. You have a husband who loves you and your nationality matters little to him otherwise he wouldn't have married you. It is HIS state of mind that you should be more concerned with and it seems you don't have a problem with him. Don't even waste your time responding back to you MIL. The next time you see her, put forth a positive attitude, and act as though you never received her tactless email and that you couldn't care less. That way, if she did INDEED have wrong intentions when she sent you that email, she'd be disappointed by how you're not reacting to it. We don't know the intentions behind her email. For all you know they could have been innocent. She might even have sent it with the intention of concern for Pakistan and how it would be much better if it's government did things differently (such as electing their own leaders). You'll never know why she did it. People who desire to hurt you want to see a reaction and get under your skin, so don't give her one and don't let it happen. Corruption takes place in every country, even in super power nations. The reason behind the success or failure of a country is dependent upon MANY factors, not only the way it elects its leaders. If anything, this letter did a poor job explaining the reasons behind the economic success of a country. It was not thorough enough, it doesn't educate much, and while it might be taken seriously by the average reader, I doubt it's something that economists would rely heavily upon, :p
I think you should confront her, and tell her that you read it, and what was it in the article that she thought you should concentrate on most, and why…if she’s not stuck for words she’l think twice about sending you another email.
send her this (cuz this article is like talking about two “melay main bhicharnay walay bhai ”, and the current position of india is truly represented by Amitab bachan here)
It matters to people because whether we admit it or not we all have a natural affinity for the country in which we were born or grew up. I can't deny that I am biased towards Pakistan.
My husband's family is mainly from India and this issue often raises its ugly head in discussions. I have learned to bite my tongue and just let it pass.
I have also learned that there are many good things about India that we might never see in Pakistan. Does that make India better? Does it change the love I have in my heart for Pakistan? Nope.
Will I invite trouble/arguments in my household for this reason? No way.
thanks a lot guys for all the suggestions, and some of them were really hilarious.
I think it makes sense to just ignore it and pretend as if I never received anything. I just got really pissed because I didn't understand why she wanted to make me feel that way for no apparent reason. But thank God I didn't react right away and took some time to ask people for advice to see if it really was something to ponder over or not.
Also, I did talk to my husband about it because he got the email as well (obviously). But he felt the same way and said, it didn't seem that the email was sent with goodwill.
Anyway, thanks a lot guys for all your help and advice. I really appreciate it because it did help me see the other side of the picture and help me focus on much bigger and better things Allhumdulilah.
(cuz this article is like talking about two “melay main bhicharnay walay bhai