WHAT IF:?? if the guy you were gonna marry his sister gets ristha from a family which is not on good terms wiht you and you supect those people did the ristha with your nand just to put you in an uncomfotrable position becauses they have a grudge against your family..then would you back out of the ristha?
say your future husband has a bad temper and is shaki and his sister’s soon too-be in-laws started telling them false things about your family and he started acting mean and stopped talking to you for 3 months and whenver you would phone he would keep suspecting and asking indirectly if your meeting another family where u live(whom they suspect are there enemies and they dont really get along with).
what would you do? would you try to convince ur hone wala husband that there is nothing like that? and if he became ok later on would you still go ahead and marry him or would you finsih it?
would you fight or give up? if the nanad’s to be in-laws were really really against your brother and dad and hteyve been after your famliy for a long time trying to cause you all sorts of headaches.
Yes back out of the rishta immediately , it aint worth it. There are millions of good guys in this world. Getting married to such a guy is going to make your whole life miserable.
I would also say back out if you don't feel comfortable. Seems like that the guy is suspecting and you can't change such people's mentality no matter how hard you try.
but what if after he said it was just a confusion and that now he undesrtands and he leaves so many pohone messages and sends u flowers and sounds sincere?
If you were in his position and someone you wanted to get married to tried to back out, wouldnt you suddenly become all angelic? :) ... Think like him too.
but what if after he said it was just a confusion and that now he undesrtands and he leaves so many pohone messages and sends u flowers and sounds sincere?
No body takes rejection lightly specialy from a girl/woman. A jerk is a jerk is a jerk. He will marry you and then divorce you to teach you a lesson , if divorce sounds too intense he will treat you like dirt , he is already treating you like dirt.
No body takes rejection lightly specialy from a girl/woman. A jerk is a jerk is a jerk. He will marry you and then divorce you to teach you a lesson , if divorce sounds too intense he will treat you like dirt , he is already treating you like dirt.
There is only one way to find out if I am scaring you or giving you the right advice. I pray to Allah that your wishfull thinking turns out right . Ameen.
i know everyone is probably right about him being a tough cookie but i make mistakes too and sometimes when i try hard he s good with me
i just get the feeling that by letting him go im letting his sister's in laws win. arnet i doing exactly what htey want? arent they ruling my life like this? arent they gogin to be glad that i chickended out? arnet i giving htemt the power to play and interfere in my life if i give him up?
i know everyone is probably right about him being a tough cookie but i make mistakes too and sometimes when i try hard he s good with me
i just get the feeling that by letting him go im letting his sister's in laws win. arnet i doing exactly what htey want? arent they ruling my life like this? arent they gogin to be glad that i chickended out? arnet i giving htemt the power to play and interfere in my life if i give him up?
The picture you painted of him in your initial few post has nothing to do with his sister in law. They show he is insecure , in sensitive, does not trust you . These are not mistakes , this is his personality. This is not a war between his sister in law and you , it is about how you are going to lead your life if you get married to this guy.
If you feel that you over exaggerated about his personality and his behavior patterns then you are the best judge of him and yourself.
it does have to do with her and im not talking about his bhabi.im talking about his own sister the family she is getting married to. so its his soon to be bhenoi and his bhenoi's father which are in zidd with my family
so it does have to do with his sister because hes like crazy baout his family about his mother and sister.
so i m not sure if what he was doing was situaltional or his personality. but everyone's right it was wrong of him to go overboard like that thats wats scaring me. wat he will do in the future? but then i get mad whne i think about wat his bhneoi's family is doing with me and i think its just not fair!