every girl dreams and prepares for the big day and people spend considerable amounts of money on their clothes, jewellery, wedding halls, food, DJ etc etc. My question is that , now, years/months down the line, do you wish you had not spent this amount of money on your big day and instead used the money towards your honeymoon with your husband or towards other things like your education etc? or do u think every inch of it was justified?
For example a friend of mine got married and her hubby took lotsa days off from work (the wedding was held in pakistan) and you know you need lots of time/days off for preparations. Especially if you have a job how do you deal with this? some girls end up quitting work and my particular friend said after the wedding they had no money or time to go for a honeymoon.
another couple has been a year into serious debt after spending money on a lavish wedding. and never went for a honeymoon.
For example a friend of mine got married and her hubby took lotsa days off from work (the wedding was held in pakistan) and you know you need lots of time/days off for preparations. Especially if you have a job how do you deal with this? some girls end up quitting work and my particular friend said after the wedding they had no money or time to go for a honeymoon.
another couple has been a year into serious debt after spending money on a lavish wedding. and never went for a honeymoon.
Honestly I can't say anything right now, but the way I see it, spending money on a wedding IS justified, it only comes once in a lifetime. You want to wear the best jewelry, have the best makeup, gorgeous decorations etc, it's only natural. However, they also need to realize that you don't need to spend so much money that you go into debt. If you can afford it, i say go for it. BUT at the same time, 3500 for desserts IS really stupid and not necessary whatsoever. Okay fine, u dont want a simple-at-home/masjid-no fancy dress/makeup blahblabhlah.. but you don't gotta go broke. There is life after shaadi ;)
Also I think going on a exotic honeymoon the second after wedding is kinda overrated...won't u be spending all the time indoors anyway :D
wow… yani begam ki khidmet?.. very Nice…
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i never wanted to have a big lavisher wedding .. i wanted it to be Very simple but no body listened to me and we ended up having a costly one.
… … good thing that we had time and money for the Honeymoon.. because it was not under my budget.. but was on my husband’s budget
… Sara… Congratulations in advance
^ Finally ur unn ke ghar mein now Congratz..when was the wedding?
Yeah it seems like most typical pakis dont believe in honeymoon period..sidha ghar jao aur mai ko kaam pe lagao
Now looking back...yes, I do wish that I had spent less on the wedding - don't get me wrong we didn't have a huge wedding bill...but still......We had 4 days of proper celebrations with an extended family (my husband's sister is my cousins wife) so it was all mingled into one...
BUT I am telling you, the first month after the wedding is when it hits you hard! I had never had such a low bank account in my life!!!!!!
Then again....yes it's once in a lifetime etc etc...
I think so wedding shoulld be planned including the budget of honey moon:)
because new couples do need to enjoy themselves in honeymoon bcoz after that bche and everything u don't get time likt that again.
If u can afford it then go for a well prepared wedding ... everything nicely done and u can say a bit lavish! but if u cant really afford then u shouldnt consider lavish decorations..extremely expensive dresses, lots of different get togethers, etc!
Sara---R u really getting married? Whre? and WheN?
NO - your premise is incorrect - not every girl dreams about her wedding. Neither my sister nor I dreamed about weddings. I was vehemently opposed to marriage and the whole concept until I met someone and we married in a very low-key wedding (planned by my parents.) I did not dress up, my parents bought simple gold jewellery and I didn't wear most of it, and we did not take professional pictures. I have not gone back and looked at my pictures. Since we married without family, our wedding in Pakistan is coming up and again, I am not planning.
It is not that I am trying to be simple, I prefer to direct my attentions elsewhere. The only input I have into the wedding is no dais, no professional photography, no heavy clothes, no getting made up and wasting a number of hours in a salon, the fake nails (I nail-bite like a pre-adolescent boy around his first love) etc. My parents are happy planning and they are spending the money. Neither my husband nor I are spending any money. We will both come back - me to school, him to work.
I have not regretted my wedding. We are not poor but I have different interests. My husband and I are very much in love but it is a private thing. I can't bear the thought of sitting there, painted, weighted down, trussed up, looking utterly unlike myself. On a dais no less, in a showy display of narcissism with (scathing and appraising) attention I would rather deflect from myself. Both of us are private, unassuming, generally unfashionable individuals. We are both boring people. Whatever jewelry parents and in-laws buy me, I am planning to put in the bank and sell when tangible needs arise.
My wedding was also low-key without a lot of extras. Alhamdulilah, there aren't any regrets. We didn't take a trip right after we got married- that was a mutual decision- as we wanted to go to the RIS conference with both families.
We did take a weekend trip up to Montreal the summer after we were married and then in the fall a year later we went to Paris for 8 days.
For example a friend of mine got married and her hubby took lotsa days off from work (the wedding was held in pakistan) and you know you need lots of time/days off for preparations. Especially if you have a job how do you deal with this? some girls end up quitting work and my particular friend said after the wedding they had no money or time to go for a honeymoon.
another couple has been a year into serious debt after spending money on a lavish wedding. and never went for a honeymoon.
I can't speak for everyone but at least 2 of my freinds who were married recently told me not to invest so much of my money into wedding stuff (decor, etc.) and to invest more in the honeymoon (my ruksati's in june). Their reasoning was that you don't really enjoy any of that stuff urself that day and it's only for a day. You're gonna want a fun/relaxing/whatever time on ur trip where you don't have to worry so much about cutting the trip shorter cuz u cant afford it or not spending too much. But that's just their experience and advice. I'm sure ppl will say different things.
..aik din shaadi aur doosrai din ghar k kaam kaaj shuru..
!!!lol
Congratz..when was the wedding?
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