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[K4plan]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@Impulse

shes decent cuz she wants to marry at age 16?

would a 12 year old who wants to get married be considered MORE decent in your eyes?

He probably calling her descent because shes obiding by her parents decision.

[Sara516]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@K4plan

He probably calling her descent because shes obiding by her parents decision.

Then she must be only half decent if one parent doesn’t approve

[K4plan]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@Sara516

Then she must be only half decent if one parent doesn’t approve

Hahahha

[hussain87]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@Impulse

shes decent cuz she wants to marry at age 16?

would a 12 year old who wants to get married be considered MORE decent in your eyes?

i know she is too young at this stage to marry but hey atleast she doen,t have the ego problem and above all she isn,t selfish like most pakiatani girls living in west:halo: …

[K4plan]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@hussain87

i know she is too young at this stage to marry but hey atleast she doen,t have the ego problem and above all she isn,t selfish like most pakiatani girls living in west:halo: …

Oh, but she is selfish. Slefish to keep her parents by her side and not having them disown her over airing out her thoughts on getting married to the young gentleman.

Ofcourse its such an unislamic thing to do, Islam encourages parents to make choices for their kids without the need to once ask them if they are happy and willing to give in 100% to the person they have found to be suitable enough.

Any child that disagrees with is/her parents decision isn’t religious and so modern, right?

:halo:

[Impulse]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@hussain87

i know she is too young at this stage to marry but hey atleast she doen,t have the ego problem and above all she isn,t selfish like most pakiatani girls living in west:halo: …

im a pakistani girl living in the west…

tell me which ego problem I have and how am I selfish ?

[hussain87]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@K4plan

He probably calling her descent because shes obiding by her parents decision.

ppl like her deserve respect cuz they set aside their happiness for some1 else and that is what make her a better human then me or u.:halo: …

[K4plan]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@hussain87

ppl like her deserve respect cuz they set aside their happiness for some1 else and that is what make her a better human then me or u.:halo: …

..for who?

[Impulse]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@hussain87

ppl like her deserve respect cuz they set aside their happiness for some1 else and that is what make her a better human then me or u.:halo: …

if they are not compatible and within a year they get divorced…her parents would be UNHAPPY for the rest of their lives…

so is it better to make parents happy for only a few months or for a lifetime?

I have seen this happen MANY times…silly little girls getting married cuz they wanna “obey” parents…but when it comes to actually making that marriage work…they dont want to do it and get divorced…I have seen MANY divorces like this…and hence MANY families breaking up (family friends/relatives)…and parents are unhappy for the rest of their lives…both the girls and the guys.

[K4plan]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@Impulse

if they are not compatible and within a year they get divorced....her parents would be UNHAPPY for the rest of their lives....

so is it better to make parents happy for only a few months or for a lifetime?

Good thinking.

[Sara516]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

Kaplan, hussain’s referring to fact that shes marrying so soon because the guy’s grandmother wants to c him married before she dies :halo:..so its a “sacrifice” on her part..

Impulse, in that scenario, parents would deserve the crap they get from “community” for being so stupid by making their young daughters get married..

I know I started having hte desire to marry pretty young (18), but even then it was only thinking and talking, nothing concrete happened until now, and there’s a huge difference between 18 and 23 (when i will be married InshAllah). I still feel its unthinkable to make your kids get married before they’ve finished college and worked. I really believe that if you’ve raised them right, instilled good Islamic values in them, they will naturally stay away from sex and dating (what many parents fear, and the primary reason for these type of marriages).

That said, I do know several girls who were nikkah’ed after high school, one had her rukhsati two years later and just had a baby another is still studying and another had a baby right away and is nowhere near finishing her degree. So the end result isn’t bad, but I would jus tnever do it and the concept of it bothers me.

[K4plan]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@Sara516

^ shes marrying so soon because the guy’s grandmother wants to c him married before she dies :halo:

Personally, I think family members can be so inconsiderate towards others and dare I mention selfish.

[Aish]

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he has needs but wants to fulfill them with u. He wants all of u, ur heart, ur body, everything

Youre 16?!? Damn and i thought i got hitched young

[Brit_Chick]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@Maria1786

hey i just wnt 2 ask dat im gna b gettin married nxt year, n da guy am gna get married 2 tlks 2 me n we tlk abt alot of thingz n he tlks dirty wid me.. i mean abt sex n dat… is it wrong??

If that’s the kind of style you talk to him in then I doubt he’ll be able to make head or tail of your ‘dirty talk’ .

[lussi]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@Brit Chick

If that's the kind of style you talk to him in then I doubt he'll be able to make ** head ** or tail of your 'dirty talk' .

funny. i bet he's talking about the same thing too.

[S02]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@Maria1786

i av met him.. he’s from pak.. bt didn’t knw dat every1 wanted me 2 marry him at dat tym.. n myt meet him b4 da weddin.. nt sure tho, yeah ma parents made the decision of ma marriage.. well mum did, dad says am too young

You’re talking dirty to each other and you barely know each other? I think you’re a bit young for this. There is more to who you are and to who he is then your sexuality. If you are talking on the phone, get to know your personality, interests (aside from sex), etc.

[S02]

Re: Physical Relationship before marriage

@hussain87

Maria1786 nice to see there are nice/decent girls like u living in the west …

Yes talking dirty on the phone with one’s fiance (who is almost a stranger) is usually the sign of a nice, decent girl.

[ZaA_A_ma]

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Maria ur as young as me .. what have u seen in this world, ur so young,
16 is the age of enjoying with friends, not to be a housewife .. and the boy is from pk , and he talks dirty be careful plz ..

[Afridi786]

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^yah he dont sound right

[Sara516]

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Maria, did u tell ur parents hes talking dirty to you? :halo:
Girl you’re only 16, no need to get tied down at 17, go to college, get friends have fun, make a future for yourself before you let ur mother push u into a marriage coz some woman wants to c her horny grandson marry before she dies. It may be “selfish” of you to do that, and make you “less decent” in some peoples eyes but in the end its YOUR life, ure living wiht him , it’s your bachpan that’s gonna be snatched away from you.