So there is this theory/hypothesis in typical desi (paindu) mindset that…
A full time at home mother is better than a part time at home mother…
that if a woman were to stay at home during early years of kids…that would be most beneficial to kids…
do you agree or disagree?
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I cannot agree to it as a rule, but I believe that no one else can raise kids better than their own mother. Now I understand that sometimes, in order to raise kids and provide them with the best of the best out there, moms have to work also. More power to them , if they do.
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I cannot agree to it as a rule, but I believe that no one else can raise kids better than their own mother. NO I understand that sometimes, in order to raise kids and provide them with the best of the best out there, moms have to work also. More power to them , if they do.
sigh Way to easy.
Re: Question to ladies........
what do you mean as a 'rule' ??
obviously talking about what you would consider 'majorly' or 'more likely than not' sort of........not talking about absolutes here...........
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One of the two should stay at home during early years (4-5 years). Stay at home dad can be equally good in raising kids. One who can earn more should go out to earn.
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way to easy for me to say that? Yes you might be right. My mom was a stay at home mom, my wife came back home full time after our first daughter was born, so I definitely dont have experience with part time SAHM or moms who work full time.
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Babies early on need a primary care giver with whom they feel secure with. It can be the mother, father, grandparent, or whomever. The baby needs to build this relationship in order for normal social and emotional development to occur. If the caregiver changes too often the baby will not be able to build that relationship with anyone. This is a theory called attachment theory. So yes, a primary caregiver is needed.
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if a woman were to stay at home during early years of kids.......that would be most beneficial to kids........
what do you mean as a 'rule' ??
That
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i think both should stay at home and raise the kiddies. to give them an optimal upbringing. the nanny can make money.
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I quit my full time profession when I had my kids. I don't regret it, but I have to say that unless you have a very demanding career, one can definitely manage to be the best mother you can even while having a job. It's all about how you think, your attitude and how you function. Some people cannot feel productive if they are at home all day so instead of adding value to their child's life, they just fulfill a role mechanically. SOme people are great at multitasking. Some need to separate themselves from something else that looks like a distraction to them.
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i think both should stay at home and raise the kiddies. to give them an optimal upbringing. the nanny can make money.
but if both are at home, they would have so much of time that they may end making more babies than they can afford.
Not a good idea
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but if both are at home, they would have so much of time that they may end making more babies than they can afford.
Not a good idea
LOLLL. yea too much quality time.
word population: 7 billion. i should make that my signature.
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LOLLL. yea too much quality time.
word population: 7 billion. i should make that my signature.
yes, as they say - Love is 5 mins of fun, 9 months of pain and lifetime of misery.
you should make that your signature.
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no. that’s sad.
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kaun hai yee 5 min wala? 
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Actually its not a desi mind set, Ive heard about sooo many white moms that do that too!!
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I dont really think there is some rocket science behind the upbringing of your children. The best aim should be to adorn your children with best morals and then the best education to survive in this world. Whoever does it better deserves a credit. If a mom is nothing but a couch potato and much too engrossed in fashion and tv and all that and is over looking the basic duties she has to perform ie bringing her children up the way she should, i wouldnt say she is any better.
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101% Agreed :k:.
There may be exceptions depending on the circumstances but generally speaking, i would definately like for every women to be at home bringing up their kids theirself and just being there for them as oppose to the nannies doing it for them.
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i think both should stay at home and raise the kiddies. to give them an optimal upbringing. the nanny can make money.
Or they can both stay home with the nanny and the baby can go work.
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Or they can both stay home with the nanny and the baby can go work.
^This threesome right here. Man's become a friggin genius with his new title.