Question to all the Single Girls and or

Lifestyle Relationships
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their Parents…hypothetically the amount of Haq Mehr that a Girl asks does it vary depending on the Guys Looks and or Financial Status?:slight_smile:

In other words would the amount go up if the proposal was coming from a very rich Family but not so handsome prospect???:frowning:

also does the Girl get to decide or is it always the Parents???:confused:

This may have been discussed earlier, however consider it a survey in order to throw some light on what the prevailing customs are out there…:slight_smile:

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Re: Question to all the Single Girls and or

I dont think so.

It depends more on a family the girl is coming from and mehar in her family eg cousins, sister etc.

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the amount of mehr has nothing to do with looks!

Islamically...the amount of mehr is fixed between the bride and groom and does not have to be money and it should not be extravagent. Believe it or not it can be something as simple as giving your wife a Quran or teaching her a surah if that is what she asks for. Unfortunately our culture always does things extravagently even if it goes against the teachings of Islam.

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one more thing.....be sure it is something given to the GIRL and not her family!! for this is the Islamic way!

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Yes you are right, mehr is not about the man's looks, but exclusively about the man's appreciation of the girls beauty and whether he can afford to support her.

My question is not about Ideals and or what is Islamically correct....a lot of light has been shed on that in earlier forums, I am asking a question about what is actually being practiced in Muslim Culture.

What is being asked is wether Muslims also practice what our neighbors in India amoung the Hindu Culture for example ask that the Girl bring as Dowry, If the Man is a BA or BSc girls parents have to provide a motorcycle or car, if he is PHd they have to provide a Luxury car and if the Man is a Medical Doctor the girls parents provide a House..............

Essentially it is all about social climbing.......................right? :)

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i say if the guy’s family shows off themselves as being rich and stuff, then they should give the appropriate amount of monetary haq mehr. for example if they are like millionaires, then giving $1000 as a haq mehr is absolutely the cheapest thing you can do.

oh also, the amount shouldn’t be decided between the parents/guardians only. the groom and especially the bride should have the say in it as well. cuz sometimes parents get parenty and can screw things up :rolleyes:

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Should be the looks. The uglier the guy is, more the Mehr should be. Girl should have some incentive to marry him

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its like the car deals you get with cashback promises! ;)

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lol@ the above 2 comments!

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btw ....in our family the girl's side doesnt give anything to the guy's side it's ALWAYS the other way around....besides in our family the girl is always more then enough for the guys family :)

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my father asked me what i wanted my haq mahr to be...he told my father in law he'd check with me and let him know...my father in law found it surprising that my dad would ask me. It really depends on you but honestly if you look at the Prophet's tradition it is not supposed to be huge...my h usband and i talked about it and came to a sum we felt fine with. He gave it all to me the night of the wedding.

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Nice to hear that you have a Harmonious Family, it is quite reassuring! :)