Question of Values

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I went to an event put on by Indian and Middle Eastern students to go see what it was. In the beginning it was just dances kind of like a talent show. Later on it became like a dance…like you know school dance type. I stayed for 10 mins and then left. I feel bad, but did nothing wrong at ALL. So this question is more based on cultural and religious values…what I did, was it wrong? I would prefer more conservative answer’s based on religion and the Pakistani cultural values.
Thanks

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Right you sat around did nothing and you are upset about what exactly? Logic it out. You break a rule of Islam? You commit a sin? If both answers are no you need to learn to relax. Smoke a joint it will do wonders.

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i think u missed out on the fun

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How could you look yourself in the mirror anymore? Have you thought abput self flagellation. You might not be able to save your soul anymore but hell might be familiar.

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I guess its just that I feel bad because I never went to a dance before. And its like I guess I just keep thinking what if my mom saw me there then what would I have done. Or I wonder if she would be mad. I just feel little guilty although I know I didn't do anything wrong.

lussi: I said CONSERVATIVE views....thanks

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just cuz ur conservative mean u cant have fun?

again it depends on whats the definition of fun. Some people enjoy socilaizing, music and dancing but if u dont then thats ur perogrative. Do whatever makes you happy. It is as simple as that.

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Is it just me or have paki women given up their claim to common sense? I mean what exactly do you want? A pat on the back for the fact that you left? I mean you did nothing wrong. Heck a nun would have done something. You didn't. Now go to bed.

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piyari83, you sound confused deary. :) You answered your own question in your post and of course you did the right thing. I would have done the same.

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Dimag: Thanks. I guess I just wanted to know what others would have done. I know in today’s society and esp in our culture their is a lot of finger pointing that this girl is bad and that girl is bad.

I mean I do have fun, but I just don’t want to go over the limit.
And no I am not a NUN ok…I just like to have my fun with a group of girls. And if I wanted to dance I would dance with girls not in a mixed crowd. And this social event was a mixed crowd. So I just felt a little bad…

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i dont think u did anything wrong

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u shud've danced with ur girl friends :-p relax u didnt do anything wrong.

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Thanks for all the replies guys....i think i feel little bit better now

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Ya they were asking me to dance…but I just felt weird in the situation. But it was funny because they were doing dandia dance to some rap song that was on…something like its your birthday not a holiday…patha nahi gana konsa tha. But it was really funny. I was too busy laughing.

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relax yar :D You did what you felt you should do. And that can never be wrong :)

I think many would have done the same btw :)

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what was your question, I got lost??