Would you be threatened if your future wife outearned you? Would you turn down a rishta because of it?
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Don't tell guys what you really earn
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why is this always such an issue for either the girl or the guy?
money comes, money goes.....one day you might be earning more and another day he might be earning more....
someone please explain to me how this makes you a good or bad rishta......
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No and No... but I'd make sure that she understands her role as a wife and her world doesn't revolve around money.
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You'd "make her understand her role as a wife"? Please elaborate
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WHAT??? So all in all you are planning on abusing & mistreating your wife? not cool man … not cool … 
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I would only want a housewife. The best place for a woman is in the home. Now that isn't to say that it is the only place, but it is definitely the best place. It creates a strong and stable family.
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You'd "make her understand her role as a wife"? Please elaborate
What I meant was that I'll find whether she understands the role as a wife during the rishta process because the OP asked the question regarding the future wife. If I rephrase my sentence it would be
"I'll gauge whether she is a marriage material for me or not, and is not materialistic during the rishta process. Her being able to earn more than me will not be my concern".
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I replied to this above quoting PCG… how can I abuse, mistreat my future wife who is not married to me yet? And I think I have every right to determine whether a girl would be the type of wife I want or not without feeling insecure about her salary.
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No I'd want her to buy me an Audi. I would love it :P
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depends..
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dude dont get senti … what I posted was sarcasm …
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In and of itself, no. Either way, I believe that it's the man's job to provide and would want to stay away from her money anyway. If she wants something beyond what I have the means to provide, she'd be welcome to cover the difference with her own money. Whether she would earn or not would be a very minor point. Other things would be more important before we got to that.
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I wouldn't care how much money she made, just as long as it didn't get to her head... and I wouldn't go crazy with her money either. Materialistic things don't buy happiness.
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Money's money, doesn't matter who earns it. Can she manage her money? Now that's a question I'd ask myself. If she likes to spend it all and then some, we'd have a problem. I'd stay clear of that.
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Men have observed, experienced and are told that a large part of their 'relevance' to women is based on their ability to provide. It is understandable that many men feel threatened when they don't see that relevance or feel its jeopardized.
Men would have to valued and desired by women for other things, for this to change.
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Livin' the dream here folks, livin' the dream.
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This is absurd. Depends on both parties attitude generally.. I earn more than my fiance. Sometimes I his pay in a day or two. He gets happy for me :)
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Would you be threatened if your future wife outearned you? Would you turn down a rishta because of it?
of course NOT! rizq [sustenance] comes from Allah and He bestows his blessings as much as He wants upon whomsoever He wishes. i would be more than happy for her if she makes more money than i do if it gives her satisfaction and extra self dependency and adequacy.
Hasad nahiiN bal k aisii biwii par rashk ke saath sath faKhr bhii karnaa chaahiye. :)
btw, whatever she will earn she will keep it as it will be entirely her money according to the rights given by Allah.
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this is so funny how “making sure that she understands..” translates to “abusing & mistreating” …