question for married ladies with daughters

[TLK]

@Doppleganger

@TLK

Wth

How did this land in bazaar talk

Khatti, haallpppp

Shaadi bhee to aik bazaar hai.

@TLK

Why our culture does not promote ghar damaad

na-mard…

PS Wouldn’t you be happy with having the house to yourselves unless bhaabi serves only as a fill-gap “wife” who just serves as mom.

It isn’t like old days with a letter taking months to reach you. I guess the extra help manual or otherwise that kids might provide could be useful in old age.

Yaar tum bohut hee bee jamalo qsim ke aadmi ho.

[Laiha]

Re: question for married ladies with daughters

Which one is/was more painful/difficult

The thought of you marrying and leaving your parent's house, or The thought of your daughter one day getting married and leaving you :(

I am not married and don't have kids, but judging by observation, it is definitely more painful for the parents to see their daughter go. It doesn't matter if she is moving two blocks down or to another country altogether. It's more the risk and uncertainty that comes with handing your loved one off to total strangers. (And perhaps the anxiety is lesser if you marry your kids off within family?)

[Roshni]

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Which one is/was more painful/difficult

The thought of you marrying and leaving your parent's house, or The thought of your daughter one day getting married and leaving you :(

her leaving us.

hubby is already planning to tackle this issue by offering her and her hubby to live with us...we will give them big room, walk in robe and en-suite and will pay all their expenses. we will cook and wash for them...babysit too!

or they can build their own next to us and we will contribute towards costs....and if they say NO they are not getting anything from us!

[TLK]

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..and if they say NO they are not getting anything from us!

Lol. Are u serious

[S_Punk]

Don't have a daughter, so can't say.

[Roshni]

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Lol. Are u serious

yes:D

[Southie]

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Or just give them overvalued AAPL

[Royal_Gala]

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When I got married it was super difficult for me to adjust first few months; all I did was miss my parents/siblings

My brother told my mom he feels really bad for me, because I have to miss 5 more people and they all have to miss only 1 of me; made so much sense :( :(

ps: I can't even imagine my little babies going anywhere; so I will stop now.

[Muzna]

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why are we talking about this??????

just stop.

let me live in my delusional world for now.

[Iconoclast]

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her leaving us.

hubby is already planning to tackle this issue by offering her and her hubby to live with us...we will give them big room, walk in robe and en-suite and will pay all their expenses. we will cook and wash for them...babysit too!

or they can build their own next to us and we will contribute towards costs....and if they say NO they are not getting anything from us!

In the end you have to let your kids, boys or girls go. Have their own life and live it.

Its the same thing with some parents for their sons, they want to keep them close, pay for them and baby sit their kids and we wonder why they can't let go.

[SID_NY]

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Isnt it the same when sons grow up and fly off to a nice reputed college somewhere in a distant state/town? From there onwards they only come for vacation otherwise jump to another college and then a job at some remote location. And as Joel said once they are married, say bye bye.

Why so much sentiments for daughters but not sons?

[_Iraj]

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i thnk both are hard

:(

[Enchanting_Rose]

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I'm the only daughter. My parents didn't even let me dorm at university, and call me back the morning after a sleepover.

I'm pretty certain its gonna be hard for them.

[Doppleganger]

Re: question for married ladies with daughters

If you are the only one at home, then why dorm unless uncles aunties are living 24/7 at your house?

I didn't dorm due to cost and tasty food at home, but I would definitely not do it if I was the only one at home.

[TLK]

@SID_NY

Isnt it the same when sons grow up and fly off to a nice reputed college somewhere in a distant state/town? From there onwards they only come for vacation otherwise jump to another college and then a job at some remote location. And as Joel said once they are married, say bye bye.

Why so much sentiments for daughters but not sons?

Because you give away daughters, so the ownership ends, if you may. Not the case with sons

[hareem01]

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@TLK

Because you give away daughters, so the ownership ends, if you may. Not the case with sons

Aaj kal you give away sons as well.

[TLK]

^ only if his wife looks like Kim Kardashian

[hareem01]

Re: question for married ladies with daughters

@TLK

^ only if his wife looks like Kim Kardashian

KK is a bhains…pata nahi aap uss pe kyon aashique ho gaye hain.

[Roshni]

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@Iconoclast

In the end you have to let your kids, boys or girls go. Have their own life and live it.

Its the same thing with some parents for their sons, they want to keep them close, pay for them and baby sit their kids and we wonder why they can't let go.

we are not stopping them from living the way they want. we just want to close to where they live at least. there is nothing wrong with expecting this. I am working and my mum looks after my kids (my house is opposite to theirs) and its very convenient for me. if my mum wasn't there to look after my kids i wouldn't be working as I am not very supportive of day cares. what my parents also did is built houses for my brothers next to each other. so even if they/their families dont interact at least they are close to each other if needed.

my SIL suffers seizures and recently my nephew found her on floor, face soaked in blood and he ran to my other brothers house for help. these are benefits of living close to each other. regardless of how modern or independent we think family is a family as long as they dont interfere into each others lives.

[SID_NY]

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@TLK

^ only if his wife looks like Kim Kardashian

@hareem01

KK is a bhains…pata nahi aap uss pe kyon aashique ho gaye hain. :smack:

Ok thats it.. Its decided. I’m going to watch a full marathon of Kardashians first thing on Chaand raat… scheduled](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=Scheduled)