what are your opinions? particularly about men doing it? thanks its for a poll i am doing 
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when all the good looking, well settled muslim guys are gone, where are we left? .
don't worry. we can have more than one wife. Your future is safe.
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If you have inner beauty then marry someone who has inner beauty and can provide you to the best of his abilities and who is not necessarily wealthy.
Why are you in search of a good looking and wealthy groom ? Let them marry good looking gold digger and suffer the consequences , if any , that will teach them.
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i think it's the other way around now...in the last 5 years i've seen a trend of muslim girls marrying whities and this trend is growing by leaps N bounds as we speak.
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what are your opinions? particularly about men doing it? thanks its for a poll i am doing :)
Whenever a family member, friend, co-worker etc.....anytime I hear of someone getting married....I'm happy for them. Whether they're marrying a Muslim, Christian, Jew....white, black, hispanic whatever.....I'm not in a position to pass judgement on someone else's choice regarding their life partner. I know Muslim men married to non-Muslim women....and I know Muslim women married to non-Muslim men. I also know several "racially mixed" couples.
I'd prefer a Muslim man or woman marry non-Muslim and be happy/safe...compared to plenty of Muslim&Muslim marraiges I know where the couples are miserable b/c of lack of compatibility, one spouse being abusive etc.
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Whenever a family member, friend, co-worker etc.....anytime I hear of someone getting married....I'm happy for them. Whether they're marrying a Muslim, Christian, Jew....white, black, hispanic whatever.....I'm not in a position to pass judgement on someone else's choice regarding their life partner. I know Muslim men married to non-Muslim women....and I know Muslim women married to non-Muslim men. I also know several "racially mixed" couples.
I'd prefer a Muslim man or woman marry non-Muslim and be happy/safe...compared to plenty of Muslim&Muslim marraiges I know where the couples are miserable b/c of lack of compatibility, one spouse being abusive etc.
^^ well said
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Islamically speaking Men are permitted to marry non-Muslim (Ahl-e-Kitab) women, while women are not permitted to marry non-Muslim men.
I get that many "Muslim" people marry non-Muslims but why the heck do they try to have an Islamic wedding? Particularly the women. It's pretty hypocritical to overlook the religion of the future spouse yet still insist on upholding Muslim traditions. Even to the Muslim men I say: There are more than a few eligible Muslimas in this world for you, should be marrying them.
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I get that many "Muslim" people marry non-Muslims but why the heck do they try to have an Islamic wedding?
All desis I know....whether they're Hindu, Muslim, or Christian....and whether or not they're marrying someone of their own race/religion or an "outsider"...........all the weddings are generally organized by the parents. It's usually the parents who want a "Islamic" wedding as a show to their "community". Vice versa...I know plenty of Hindus who married non-Hindus...yet had a traditional hindu ceremony b/c of the parents need to please their "community"....whether or not the non-Hindu spouse believed in any of the Hindu ceremony was irrelevant.
Heck even in Muslim&Muslim weddings......generally majority..if not all details are arranged by parents. Regardless of the religion of one of the spouses....how many people these days have a true Islamic wedding? Weddings aren't usually for the bride/groom....it's for the parents.
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Islamically speaking Men are permitted to marry non-Muslim (Ahl-e-Kitab) women, while women are not permitted to marry non-Muslim men.
I get that many "Muslim" people marry non-Muslims but why the heck do they try to have an Islamic wedding? Particularly the women. It's pretty hypocritical to overlook the religion of the future spouse yet still insist on upholding Muslim traditions. Even to the Muslim men I say: There are more than a few eligible Muslimas in this world for you, should be marrying them.
because, most parents dive into a delusional mode and believe that their newly converted son-in-law has in-fact converted so in order to satisfy their false ego they have Islamic weddings. less they know that these days those non Muslims convert in name sake only, just to effectively shut up the girl's parents. what a pathetic situation these girls subject their parents to. [most converts are NOT genuine. only a handful may be true converts but again we aren't supposed to open someone's heart and see if the iimaan is there or NOT! it's kinda easy escape.]
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All desis I know....whether they're Hindu, Muslim, or Christian....and whether or not they're marrying someone of their own race/religion or an "outsider"...........all the weddings are generally organized by the parents. It's usually the parents who want a "Islamic" wedding as a show to their "community". Vice versa...I know plenty of Hindus who married non-Hindus...yet had a traditional hindu ceremony b/c of the parents need to please their "community"....whether or not the non-Hindu spouse believed in any of the Hindu ceremony was irrelevant.
Heck even in Muslim&Muslim weddings......generally majority..if not all details are arranged by parents. Regardless of the religion of one of the spouses....how many people these days have a true Islamic wedding? Weddings aren't usually for the bride/groom....it's for the parents.
That's pretty messed up then. I mean if you're not religious and/or Muslim/Hindu/whatever in name only, don't try to put on false pretenses for your community. I mean if you have the courage to marry outside of your faith then why lie/try to delude others into believing that suddenly you "care" about the faith. No respect for that.
I have a few friends who married outside of their faith -- they had interdenominational weddings or skipped the wedding part by going to the clerks office for license and then throwing a reception. At least they kept it real..
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because, most parents dive into a delusional mode and believe that their newly converted son-in-law has in-fact converted so in order to satisfy their false ego they have Islamic weddings. less they know that these days those non Muslims convert in name sake only, just to effectively shut up the girl's parents. what a pathetic situation these girls subject their parents to. [most converts are NOT genuine. only a handful may be true converts but again we aren't supposed to open someone's heart and see if the iimaan is there or NOT! it's kinda easy escape.]
+1 for the honesty.
I mean hey if these Muslim girls want to marry some non Muslim guy, then be strong enough to say it. These conversions make a mockery of the religion and cast doubt on the true reverts. To take this a step farther, if these "Muslim" guys and girls want to marry a gora or kala -- then alhamdolilah there are many reverts in the Muslim communities, why not marry them? I don't think faith here is the issue -- its the delusions that you have highlighted.