Question for u- in a couple of recent events shaadis and such that i have gotten to people freely take pictures of the bride and groom and post all of them on facebook, without the consent of either. this is not soo much a problem except sometimes they post unflattering ones, like of the bride mist eating etc.
This started when a religious hijab wearing family friend got married, she had a dholki and did not wear the hijab because it was only women invited. Anyways she logged on to facebook the next day to see that her entire dholki pictures 140 to be exact were posted additionally the girl who had put these pictures up there had also send them to someone she knew in pakistan and not only did the bride get friend requests from people she did not know, but of of the girls copied her exactly bridal outfit, mehndi outfil, valima outfit… because i guess the person that this girl sent the pictures to in pakistan was a “fashion designer”
Since then i have gotten cards that say
“No Box Gifts
Out of respect to the bride and groom, please do not take pictures”
and one care bluntly said
“No Photography allowed from the guests, please leave that to the professionals”
I actually went to valima in which the groom’s side had people standing at the door taking cameras and cellphones with cameras.
I guess my question is for those brides that are religious and do not want their pictures splashed on facebook, twitter, myspace etc, what should be done? Not inviting these people to take pictures is out of the question, but at the same time how can the message be communicated effectively?
^i dont think it just has to do with being religious, its a minority of girls who would want their photos all over the internet.
Its sad because a lot of the guppie veterans have helped so many people by sharing photos of their makeup or dress or the event itself only to have that abused by people who arent even members of gupshup.
i think the last thing I'd ever do is put my pics up on facebook or flickr, but at the same time, its unrealistic to think that i can stop people from doing cheap things like taking my picture with their cellphones and i know people would get offended if i printed something like that on my invites.
agreed, in fact a shaadi i went to last month the girl sent out an email a couple days ago to a "selected few" and sent them pictures of her wedding, she said that only certain few were privilegded to get her wedding photos and not to share them with anyone beyond those in the email.
SHe also had a couple of guys in suits, saying to people "please dont take pictures" whenever someone whipped out a camera in the direction of the couple.
Im wondering, how would this work? if you go to a wedding, wont u want to take pictures oif yourself and your family? do they just lose out on taking their own pictures then?
It's a tricky one. I guess in this day and age it's much more of a problem because of the internet, new techonology etc and ultimately very hard to control. :-s
I think the no boxed gifts issue is entirely separate. But I can understand stating it on the invitation that no cameras are allowed. The problem is getting people to follow the request.
i dont knw...i myself wouldn't mind not taking any pictures at an event but that bcuz i m not a pictures person anyways, but i could see other getting very mad abt it...and this might work overseas (US, UK or Canada) but good luck having this in pakistan.
what a great topic!
i recently went to a wedding where they had a note on each table saying, please do not take pictures.. it was a segregated wedding with only islamic songs playing because the bride was a strict hijabi.
My friends write it on the invites for all of their events (weddings and girls only get-togethers). They say that they'll have a camera and will be happy to share the pictures. It hasn't become an issue.
I dont understand why people would even want pics of the bride and groom. I rarely take my camera anywhere and def not to anyones wedding specially when I'm all dressed up and can only carry a clutch. Even when I go to weddings, friends that I know that have the camera only take pics of themselves and the bride/groom only if they request it. For example, at a wedding I went to a friend of ours (also a friend of the bride) was requested by the bride to take pics of her while she was walking in the hall (even though they had a professional photog). So I really dont get why people see a need to bring cameras. If they want their own pics taken cuz they got dressed up, they should take the pics at home before leaving. As for any wording on the invites, I think it's a great idea to ask guests not to take pics of the bride/groom.
I can understand people posting up pictures on FaceBook if its like their sibling's wedding, or their aunt/uncle, or close friend etc....but in those cases, you would think they would know, as they are close to the bride/groom, whether or not the person would want their pictures up, and if they wouldnt, the person should have the good sense to respect it. But beyond that, if its not someone you are close to, if its just like a family friend or distant acquaintance, why would you put their pictures up??? Its different to take pictures of yourself, your family and friends at the wedding, as you all dressed up and looking good (hopefully! haha), but if you dont know the couple closely and dont have their consent, or worse if you know they dont want their pictures sharded, then really you must be lame to be posting their pictures up all over the place!!!!!!!!!!!
Because there are weirdos out there, I totally think its okay for the couple to ask people not to take their pictures, if they rnt comfortable with that. I dont think you should go as far as confiscating cameras, unless your wedding is attended by 1001 people you dont even know. If they are your well wishers, I hope they will at least respect a simple request from you!!!
I went to a wedding recently where the mother of the bride walked in before her and requested that no one takes pictures of the bride. shes a strict hijabi and the wedding was completely seregated, no music or anything, and people listened. The thing is, if i go to a wedding where i dont really know the bride or groom that well, i wont take pictures of them. And if i do, i would never put them on FB. I do however put family wedding pictures on fb cause i have family all over the world and its just the easiest way to share them, but i alwaysss make sure either the bride or groom know that i am uploading them and that they are happy with me doing so.
i think it would be nice to announce to all the guests before the bride and groom walk in that please do not take photograph of the couple, or something like that.
in desi wedding you just don't know what kind of people will be attending your wedding, i personally know a lot of families here who are really nice and religious but their kids (specially boys) are really out of control. anyone would be really uncomfortable to have their picture up on someone's facebook page and random people commenting or worse farwording the pictures to other.
The sad thing is alot of people do put their cameras and not take pictures but MOSTLY when they see a hijabi bride or a religious family. I don't understand why they cannot do the same for a normal wedding.
we were invited to a wedding and the card said "no photography of the bride please" on it. she is a very religious girl so she didnt want guests taking her pictures and having them in their posession. i thought that was smart of them to do that before hand so people would know when they came instead of being told at the event.
^ But it's not just the bride and groom. If it's a segregated wedding, many women will come dressed differently and will not want to be photographed.
ALHAMDULILAH i take hijab and i don't like anyone taking my picture when i am not wearing a hijab. so if i am at a segregated party where i am not wearing a hijab i just don't get my picture taken, or i put my dupatta around my head for the picture, if anyone of my friend is taking a picture. so usually it's not a problem for the hijabi guests becaues they can ask the person to not take their picture, but i can see how it can be a problem for a hijabi bride becaue she can't say much from the stage if someone is taking a picture. so it's better if they anounce it or put it on a card.
well you know what?? i dont knw what happens at other countries but in pakistan even the photographers and the movie makers leak out pictures and videos at time for money sake!!! so its like you cant stop people actually plus if you are not doing it yourself and somebody else is posting your pictures then you are not the one to be blamed :)