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i cant belive i have managed to elicit so many responses. If i have played on any type of stereotypes and hurt someone in the process, then i wish to offer my sincere apologies.
Ciao
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get out of here
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i know i have incurred serious damage to my credibility. But off to tangent, but not too off, i am curious to know why desi women are less likely to marry guys from home, as opposed to desi guys, most of whom have no problem marrying girls from back home?? My sister is a glaring example. She is absolutely adament about not marrying anyone from back home; whereas I dont think i would have any serious problem, as long the girl is pretty and smart.
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Because girls are smart and boys are stupid.
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as so illustriously proven by my inane troll. Point well taken:D
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Well... I dont think guys from bak home are retarded or jaahil ro whatever, but I am definitely wary of marrying one from there. it's nto that they would be horrible guys or whatever, but they would probably appreciate a woman from there as well. I just think people with similar upbringings and backgrounds have a better chance at getting along than those with differnet backgrounds. It's nto the only criteria but just one of many.
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With a nick like 'dope' it was quite suspect.
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I was right once again. Thats it somebody hand me a box of chocolates.
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two words for you tragically unfunny trolls - dangerous desi.
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i wana say only one thing tou that to as u said u r from hyderabad (AP),u might have watched hyderabad blues movie so remember its famous dialogue(that i think u knew).by the way hyderabadis are dilkhush type ppl and how come u r becoming exception.if not that girl u ll find another.and dont take it upon urself if somebody is not chatting to u.
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sighz
Its the fear that a boy from Pakistan will think that he's living in Pakistan and that he can get away with emotional abuse, physical abuse, as well as little things that really add up like not allowing the wife to work or have a career or even have a damn hobby to keep herself sane, not wanting to plan out a family and have a cricket team instead, not respecting a female's body, not respecting a female's opinion, not thinking of your wife as an equal, etc.
Girls think that boys raised abroad are more likely to be be satisfactory in these areas, because they're raised in a more liberal environment.
Boys on the other hand want someone under their thumb and a bholi bhali stereotypical Pakistani girl will allow herself to be put under someone's thumb just because he has a dick and she doesn't.
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I dont think my sister thinks that either (guys being jahils and whatnot). Its just we guys might be a little more superficial in our obseesion with looks and if those pass the test we are on board. I think for women, it goes a little more than just looks, and thats why i think stuff like accent, hygeine, dress up, personality are also important. I am obviously talking about the general case, not the exceptions.
Cat woman - meow back to you:)
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sara516 raised a very good point of upbringing.well in most of cases marriage is based on upbringing well and this is desi mentality that desi ppl living in usa think highly abt themselves.which becomes obvious when they return to their native desi country.heck they knew their native tongue then also they talk to street hawker in twisted angrezi:rolleyes:
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Well, it’s also what PCG said, though not so extreme. Guys from back home usually expect that they can do whatever to their wives simply coz their paki environment is very strict and traditional. At least thats what I’ve seen of family back home. The girls dont go out, dont have hobbies or anything and are pregnant usualy by teh valima . Maybe they’re happy and satisfied with their lives like that so I cant say it’s a miserable life for them, but it certainly would be for me.
The way i am, born and raised here, and no i’m not a slut, i dont have an attitude, and I’m not bitchy or immoral, but i dno’t think i could ever be with a guy like that, I’d go crazy and insane. Of course not all guys r that crazy but that’s how my family back home is like and I would nto trust them to find someone like waht I want.
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I think it goes back to the fact that American/European society is much more individualistic than Pakistani society. People here first worry about themselves foremost over anyone else. And also, being in a society where women have worked really hard to make themselves part of society, what's the point in marrying some bloke from Pakistan who is going to reverse all that?
Why would we want to marry someone with whom we share a home in which we don't feel like a 50% partner?
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Let me tell you firsthand what a double standard our parents play in bringing up desi (especially muslim) kids in the west. The men are babied by the mothers with the expectation that when they are married, they too can expect similar service from their wives; while the daughters are brought up like any other all-american girl. My father personally encouraged my sister to pursue her dreams and become an engineer, while my mother spoiled me rotten with all her love and care, cleaning up after me. Now, when it's time for both me and my sister to get married, we are finding it difficult to find the right matches. I am looking for the so-called utopian subservient girl (like my mother), and my sister is looking for the utopian sensitive muslim man who will respect her career and help with the household chores. It's a snafu.
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Desi girls? raised all american? I dunno bout that… i’ve seen girsl raised here to not go out with friends, not go out at night, to do a lot of housework and stuff…
my bro was raised that way like u were, babied and stuff… hes the biggest pig i know, hes realy messy and guess what… he married a white woman!, who, according to stupid fobs, think that they’re nly good to sleep around with and not be serious with
my parents r gonna look for a guy fro me in pakistan 
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^ bullcrap. Find a hot white guy and convert him, then marry him. I suggest start with Tom Cruise. He looks spiritually lost.
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Errrr TOO OLD!
Besides… im attracted to tall dark n hairy 