One trait I never understood with Pakistani kids was that they never question their parents. Why does it seem that the idea that the parents can be wrong, can never occur? It seems that culture encourages people to be like a parrot to repeat things rather then to question everyone and everything. Just like Abraham supposedly had a jerk dad, and some Prophets had a jerk son, you would think some people would evolve from not being a clone of their parents.
Re: Question everything!
A lot of them do question, but through wisdom by not hurting their feelings and remaining within the limits of RESPECT! Disagreeing and at the same time not hurting the feelings is not always easy. It requires a lot of wisdom which comes with the blessings of Allah (swt).
The key to question ones parents is to convey to them that you want to sincerely learn, and not to convey to them that you have become wiser / smarter than them and there never existed a time in the history when they taught you every minor good step in life.
For parents "naturally" it is not easy to accept that the child who was dependent on their decisions (and needed them) in every step of life, who could not even clean himself after playing in his own excretion will at one time stand up to them and boldly question all the experience and knowledge of their life.
Wisdom, humility and humbleness, politeness, sincere thirst for truth **and **respect are the keys, which comes with blessings of Allah (Swt)
Allah (swt) knows best!
Re: Question everything!
could not agree more
Alhumdulillah...... atleast our culture doesn't teach us to dump our parents at old age homes .
I'm a Pakistani kid and I question my parents and I even disagree with them at times. The important thing is to convey your conflicting view-points in a respectful manner. And believe me, that is not easy! Especially when both parties feel very strongly about their views.
When kids are often discouraged from sharing their opinions and when parents make major decisions for their kids without consulting their views, then children become internally frustrated, which isn't healthy at all. And one of two things happens. Either they can't take it anymore and become "rebellious," or they become passive and lack the confidence to stand up for themselves and make independent decision.