i have seen too many girls who left hijab/niqab after their marriage specially in pakistan.though they dont have any restriction frm anyone. why they do so?
That's why we should be asking for Allah's help in everything good we do and for being always on the right path.
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2 reasons that I can think of...
How so??? I know plenty of women who are amazing examples of Muslim women in the US. They are educated, do hijab, successful, etc. Im not taking your words out of context but they are your words. There are Muslims ALL OVER the world who are trying to live an Islamic life every single day and you just shunned all of their efforts and struggles with one sentence???
I completely disagree.
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That was a ‘sarcastic’ statement 
Everyone knows that women in Afghanistan and KSA are supposed to cover up from head to toe. They do no have the liberty of dressing up according to their desire Or to their religious / social guidlines. Unless you can exercise your free will, you can not be a representative of any lifestyle or any school of thought
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^ Theek hai...maaf kiya.
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In Saudi Arabia you are Supposed to wear the abaya **NOT **the hijab or niqaab.The hijab or niqaab is is totally your personal choice.
Those women especially from saudi are probably more free and educated than the men and women living in Pakistan.
SubhanAllah you are so strong:).May Allah give all of us istaqamat,ameen.
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Picking up the topic about the niqab and/or hijab in Saudi and Afghanistan it is a misnoma to assume that women have no real choice in the matter of how they dress or that to assert only if they are given freedom to dress whichever way they like it will liberate them. At the same time it is a misnoma to assert that women who are able to dress any way they wish and profess any belief they wish are liberated. They may be free to a degree but liberated needs to be contextualised.
In the West for example a woman is considered liberated to be able to wear very few clothes, but ethically albeit religiously this is considered the opposite of liberty which is to be given identity purely based on ones physical blatancy appealing to the desires of the lustful eyes.
Also, whoever my wife for example speaks with who lives by choice in Saudi says that there is plenty of freedom so long as the framework is adhered to. The lifestyle is superior in their opinion to places such as Pakistan. They view liberty as an environment which is safe from crime and is also luxurious and clean.
Even if Pakistan or West can profess the freedom of dress and expression it does not mean that this is good thing. To dress any which way gives room to the few immoral people to poison society even if the majority of women or men wear good decent clothes by choice.
The last point is that chastity can be coerced into people, just like consumerism and frivolousness can be coerced into societies through the media. Likewise such things can done in other moral directions.
To conclude it does not really matter where one lives they need to adjust psychologically to their environment and live in accordance with it, and foremost in accordance with their Islamic values. Those who are intolerant to any society are true examples of unliberated people. True liberated people do not feel oppressed in any society no matter how much or less the government controls their outward or inward lives.
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Islam uplifted the status of women and granted them their just rights 1400 years ago. Islam expects women to maintain their status.
People usually only discuss ‘hijab’ in the context of women only. However, in the Glorious Qur’an, Allah (swt) first mentions ‘hijab’ for men before ‘hijab’ for the women. The Qur’an mentions in Surah Al Noor: “Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.” [Al-Qur’an 24:30]
The moment a man looks at a woman and if any brazen or unashamed thought comes to his mind, he should lower his gaze.
Six criteria for Hijab.
According to Qur’an and Sunnah there are basically six criteria for observing hijab:
i. Extent
The first criterion is the extent of the body that should be covered. This is different for men and women. The extent of covering obligatory on the male is to cover the body at least from the navel to the knees. For women, the obligatory level of covering is to cover the whole body except the face and the hands upto the wrist. If they wish to, they can cover even these parts of the body. Some scholars of Islam insist that the face and the hands are part of the obligatory extent of ‘hijab’. All the remaining five criteria are the same for men and women.
ii. Should not reveal figure.
The second criterion is that the clothes they wear should be loose and should not reveal the figure.
iii. Should not be transparent.
The third criterion is that the clothes they wear should not be transparent such that one can see through them.
iv. Not attract opposite sex.
The clothes they wear should be not be so glamorous as to attract the opposite sex.
v. Should not resemble the clothes of the opposite sex.
The fifth criterion is that the clothes they wear should not resemble that of the opposite sex.
vi. Should not resemble the clothes of the unbelievers.
The clothes they wear should not resemble that of the unbelievers i.e. they should not wear clothes that are specifically identities or symbols of the unbelievers’ religions.
Salam Sister!
well i want to give the answer to you question as i also read the same situation of a Pakistani house wife as you are facing. i have read it from a website , so, your answer is as follows;
QUESTION:
Dear brother or sister, I am stuck in a dilemma and I am hoping you can help me. I have been married for three years. I have a one year old son and another baby on the way.
My wedding was arranged in Pakistan, but I have lived in the UK all my life. I get on well with my husband but there is a rift growing between us and it is because of hijab.
Currently I wear a headscarf and abaya every time I am in public, be it work or family event. He has never objected to it before but for about a year and a half now it is all he objects to. He would like me to dress in traditional Pakistani clothes when I am in public with a headscarf. He does not wish for me to wear the abaya anymore.
My parents-in-law also do not want me to wear the abaya as they feel it is not appropriate nor necessary. I have grown up with the belief that the abaya and headscarf was the best method of hijab. Do traditional Pakistani clothes worn in an appropriate manner meet the requirements of hijab? My husband says I must do as he says as he is not happy with the way I dress and that I should dress to please him, even in public, the way he would want me to, is he right to ask this of me and by refusing him am I wrong? Will I still meet hijab requirements in Pakistani clothing? please help.
ANSWER:
Salam, sister Saima.
Thank you for writing to us.Your main question illustrates your dilemma between wanting to dress according to Islamic rules, while at the same time trying to please a husband who asks you to wear traditional Pakistani clothes.
It seems you think the clothes he asks you to wear are "less Islamic" than the ones you prefer wearing.
Obeying God or Pleasing Spouses?
The general Islamic rule is that there is no obedience to a human — no matter whom, even parents or spouses — if they use their authority to make us disobey God. However, before applying this rule, we need to make sure first that what's being requested is indeed a disobedience to God.
There are many side points in your question that I believe are equally important for you to establish peace in your life by the grace of Allah. Let me tackle them one by one:
As a Muslim woman, you have an obligation to balance the two roles of wife and mother, while your husband has an obligation to help you regain your balance by offering you additional understanding, consideration and tenderness, as well as by physically helping with your chores if possible.
You have to realize that within the short span of 3 years, your marriage has been arranged, you had to move from the UK to Pakistan, Allah has blessed you with two children, while you keep a job as well. Your parents-in-law seem to have a say in your personal life as well due to culture.
These are a lot of responsibilities for you to deal with in such a short time. Both of you as a Muslim couple need to put in conscious effort to strengthen your bond and to get through these continuous tests of adapting and adjusting to each other and to new elements in your life.
This can only be done by getting closer and more understanding to each other, and to Allah, asking Him for support and guidance, and to plant love and compassion in your hearts and your home to please Him as best you could together as a couple.
I believe if this point is addressed seriously a lot of problems will disappear, including the one about your clothing, because it seems to me that what your husband is seeking is to re-assert his authority as a husband in your busy life.
There is always a dilemma between two traditions and cultures, and also balancing those with religion, and in your case, married life and children. A person moving to a new environment is already under a lot of pressure trying to conform to the local traditions in dress and behavior.
Unfortunately, sometimes this is done at the expense of true religious rules, which are nearly lost in the process of trying to keep social appearances.
Dress colors and style are a tradition, while clothing specifications are part of our religion which is applicable anywhere anytime and to all kinds of people from all kinds of cultures. Consequently, it's unfair to label only one style of clothing as appropriate and over-rule anything else.
There seems to be a general misconception among Muslims today that the jilbab or abaya are the only permitted Islamic type of dress, when actually, any kind of clothing that meets the Islamic criteria is considered a lawful Islamic dress.
Moreover, the focus is only on women's clothing, while the criteria for Islamic dress code and accompanying conduct extend to both men and women. According to the Quran and Sunnah, there are basically six criteria for Islamic clothing:
The remaining criteria are the same for men and women. Islamic clothes for both sexes should NOT be:
So, now you can see that there is a multitude of dressing styles that meet these criteria, and consequently can be worn by practicing Muslims. There is no reason for undue restriction. At the same time, personal behavior is also an issue.
Hijab & Conduct
A person who is only fulfilling the criteria of Islamic clothes is observing hijab in a limited sense. Hijab of the clothes should be accompanied by controlling one's actions, eyes, heart, thoughts, and intentions. Therefore, the hypocritical use of hijab is not a good example of Muslim conduct.
In light of the above, you can easily please your husband, his family and your society by adapting your Pakistani clothes to meet the Islamic specifications: ensure that they are made of a non-transparent material, make the top garment and its sleeves long, the pant legs wide, and tie your headscarf securely so it covers your hair, and does not just sit loosely on your head.
That said; please also make sure you dress elegantly and happily for your husband at home. It is his right to find a wife who pleases him when he looks at her according to the advice of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).
Salam
(So, this the answer to your question)
I hope that now you would have got the answer to your question in the light of Islamic teachings and Sunnah.
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