Be reasonable here, Amir. You said this guy has been living in your neighborhood for many years…so during all these years…has he ever given you any reason to be afraid of him?** Has he ever hurt or threatened anyone in the neighborhood?** If not, then just accept the fact that he wants to maintain his privacy and leave him alone.
“Does he have a dirty or dangerous secret?” Really…is it anyone’s business? If this guy is not bothering anyone, then his personal life is nobody’s business. Is this guy interested in knowing **YOUR **dirty secrets? Doesn’t seem like it.
“Is he plain deaf?” It could be. Or it could be that he’s not a social person. Look, in Pakistan, my grandfather’s house was connected to his sister’s house. His sister (my dad’s phoopi) was our neighbor. She hardly talked to anyone. She didn’t say hello. She didn’t smile. She didn’t acknowledge our presence although we were her relatives. She lived all by herself in her tiny little house. It was difficult to initiate conversation with her because her moods were unpredictable. Why was she like this? Her husband had left her years ago and she only had one daughter whom she raised with so much love and so many hopes. Daughter got married and had two children. Then she lost her only daughter and her two grandchildren in an accident many years ago. She basically lost her whole family. Efforts were made to reach out to her, but they weren’t always effective as she preferred to keep to herself. Personal problems can cause people to withdraw from others, that doesn’t necessarily mean that the individual is dangerous.
If you are THAT concerned about this “queer” neighbor, then go up to him and say **“Hi. how are you? You’ve lived here for years and I just wanted to say hi. At times you seem upset. I just wanted to know if everything is okay.”
**If he responds, good. If he doesn’t, he’s not obligated to. If he’s not disturbing anyone, leave him alone and mind your business.