Hi all
wanted to know if telling your parents and discussing with them the problems you are having in ur married life is considered Qheebat or not. thanks
Re: Qheebat
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Re: Qheebat
discussing facts / problems with parents with sole intent to apprise them of your situation is not considered Gheebat. the discussion must be carried out in order to find a solution to your problems rather than just badmouthing your spouse.
Re: Qheebat
It all depends on how much is shared and is the information passed on or kept confidential
Re: Qheebat
As long as you are telling truth to your parents about problems in your married life, then, as far as I know, it would not be Gheebat. From truth, I mean, all facts behind the problem (problem arising due to husband faults as well as your faults or attitude towards that problem, if any). Intention should be, that parents would talk to the husband and would sort out the problem.
You can also tell your parents of problems, just to keep them aware, so that if you need to take any drastic steps later, your parents know and do not oppose you and your decision. Actually, if you do not want them to act (by talking to your husband or his family), than at least they can advice you how to deal with the problem and correct you if you are wrong.
On the other hand (again, as far as I know), facts that Husband confided in you (as trust), or you came to know that being his wife, and that is not connected or directly effecting your married life (or should not connect or directly effect your married life), and that is something your Husband would not like anyone else to know, than you telling that to your parents can be considered as gheebat, especially if problem is such that your parents cannot take that matter to your husband.