you’ve been reading some anti-ahmadiyya websites.. thats what you’ve been doing. Please let me know one book you’ve completely read?
those claims are taken wrong meanings by you and your aalims..and following them blindly is making you commit shirk.
obedience to khilafat is according to Islam. it is the khalifa’s duty to spread the word of the prophet He is khalifa of. Has Hazrat Abu Bakr, Usman , Umar, Ali (RA) not took the message of Islam and spread it as much as they could? do u not show obedience to khulfa e rashideen ? when u accept Muhammad PBUH, you are submitting yourself to complete obedience to Muhammad PBUH and the khalifas as well. Are you not?