q for single gurlzz..

Lifestyle Relationships
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would u consider a guy who has been divorced?..

y or y not?..

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

Yes.

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

but what about the logic some women give saying if he divorced his first wife then what makes u think he wont divorce u?..

say its divorce as in there was nikah but no ruksati..

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

It would depend on the reason he was divorced

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I'm not sure where you've heard this logic buT i hear that being said alot about those who cheat, that if a man can cheat on his spouse wiht a woman, what makes that woman think SHE won't be cheated on once hes left his wife for her.

However it's not the same when it comes to a divorce. I think the further the relationship was (a baat pakki ro engagement vs a nikkah but no rukhsati vs living together but no kids vs having kids), the more complicated and messy it is.

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A single friend of mine (never married) agreed to marrying a divorced guy. They have two kids and are happy MA.

It depends upon why the guy got divorced. You'll have to ask him, listen to what he says. Apart from getting to know him and his family, you also have the responsibility of investigating him through various mediums (asking people in the community about him and his family, facebook, etc). Talk about the pros and cons with your own family, pray Istikhara.

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

No.

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

yes...
... only because i m currently married

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

I would consider a divorced man for the following reasons:

  • Divorcees are more intent on making their second marriages work...they look at it as another chance at life and will be more keen on compromises.

  • They will be more experienced and able to guide the relationship or smooth things over if they're headed in a direction they shouldnt be.

  • They are divorcees...not achoot.

These reasons are not always true for ever single divorcee or even for someone who has never been married...but in general...they seem to hold true for most.

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

yes..i would ask him the reason for divorce..and if he doesnt have kids..than its ok..

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

depends on why he got divorced.

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

depends!! if the reason was valid then why not!

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Yes, I did consider it.

We talked. There was a valid reason as to why the divorce occurred. I made my duas.

And I agreed to it.

And I don't ever remember feeling more happy and blessed.

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

^ Wow, Mashallah.

Even if someone decided to tell you why they got divorced, does it matter? Will you be able to go and verify their story? Will you be able to erase their past? No and No.

Its best to look at it as a fresh start and try to get to know this person for who they are.

Someone once told me that in a divorce...its not the people that are bad...its just that their bad for each other.

I firmly believe that.

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Consider him for what: fun? Or marriage? Either way: 'yes' on the first count; 'no' on the second (though it depends heavily on the circumstances surrounding his divorce).

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Nevermind; I thought when you wrote 'divorce', you meant a 'legally binding' one, from a legally binding marriage. Es culpa mea.

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

depends on what happened.. some peoples story just doesnt add up and if its fishy then no... if you can relate to it.. you are okay with then sure why not... like Reha said divorcees are not achoot

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Re: q for single gurlzz..

Yes