My friend is engaged to her cousin but wants the nikkah 2 be performed now. The problem is that she lives in england and he lives in pakistan, therefore her mother, since she works, no holidays atall coming up this year. She wants the nikkah because whenever she visits pakistan, he does things like kissing, fondling etc that are haraam. My friend always refuses saying that “not before the nikkah”. The guy says if No Love then No more ME. She cannot breakup because he is her 1st cousin and really wants the nikkah 2 be performed… mother cant go to pakistan and father says no nikkah if the mother is not around.
Plz help me out because i want her 2 be happy.
What is the Question ?
Quite confusing 
It is not required that both parties be physically present at same place.
Perform nikkah through internet, Net-meeting face to face 
The guy should courier or fax the nikkah or legal documents for further proceedings. Problem solved 
Re: Q concerning nikkah
the guy is an a$$!!!!!!! Just cuz she doesnt wanna kiss n stuff cuz it IS haram, there is no love?? isnt love about understanding and respecting the other persons beleives too??
I dont see why she would wanna marry an idiot like that anyways..but my uncle got his nikkah done over the phone and i heard u can do that not sure though..
whats the procedure of Nikkah on the fone, i like that idea.
The thing is that the guy was the one who proposed the girl, but she wanted her parents 2 decide but they agreed 2 the guys proposal....
he goes mad when he sees her and wants 2 kiss her n stuff and woh mangni nahin tor sakti hai coz he is her puphos son, he is caring and stuff and he wanted 2 marry her l;ast year but she is still studying, shadi is this year wese but she wants the nikkah 2 be performed before.
humm
any more comments??????
a shallow prick who desperately needs to get laid and a girl who is trying to save her chastity till the right time which in her mind is after marriage. I say castrate him.
Islamically speaking there is no such thing as an engagement or mangni. Its an extra marital affair with the consent of parents. To put it crudely, they're screwing around with eyes wide open.
She can break it off but will be shunned by the eyes of culture. Religiously, she has no obligation to him other than giving him the middle finger for not being able to control himself.
This seems more of a cultural issue than a religious one.
*My friend always refuses saying that "not before the nikkah". *The guy says if No Love then No more ME. **
I think is telltale sign?
I don't know the custom of Muslims, or Pakistanis, especially those that don't live in the U.S....
But U.S. girls are taught to be aware of men who say things because they want physical relations...and a telltale sign of that is putting pressure on a female as in the ^.
bv i would tell u if i knew..but seriously instead of telling her to marry the idiot maybe u should consider telling ur friend to think about it once more..he isnt worth it
men! 
Dump him and tell ammi .
I heard there is a fatwa where you can perform a nikkah over the internet. Like using teleconference. In any case, I have heard of phone nikkahs to be very common.
Madhu bhai, I don't know how it works. I had mine live. From what I have heard they get the paper work done before, but just the 'Yes, I do' ceremony is done over the phone.
If she told her mother about it I'm sure her cousin would get a memorable beating with some colourful bezti by the elders. It's more like he is emotionally black mailing her. Tell her to gather some courage and let her mother know. Even if they say nothing to him, they won't insist that she goes to Pakistan without a nikah, or atleast keep a close eye on him while she is there.
I think there are more then 1 alternative for the problem ...if the lady desperatly wants to marry that man.........(which i recommend she should not)
1-Phone nikahs are not held valid unless u appoint another person as vakeel of the girl..in that case nikah will be valid...
2-teleconferencing is the other practicle method....
u can betetr ask an aalim aboput al this situation ...he might tell u the best possible way.......