I have a friend who recently got married and while she was away on honeymoon another mutual friend who had attended the wedding had put all my friends wedding pictures up on her facebook. This girl has almost 200+ people on her facebook profile and has friends that my married friend would prefer didn’t have access to her wedding pictures!
This is something that I think would irritate me greatly if they were my wedding pictures, however in a world where technology is always improving it’s difficult to control what gets put up on social networking sites.
So has anyone else had this problem? Did anyone have a word with friends before their wedding and state that there were to be strictly no pictures of the bride/groom/family to be put up on facebook, unless the bride or groom were to put them up themselves? Is it possible to restrict such a thing without being seen to be behaving like a prude? Surely if you weren’t going to put your pictures up yourself, you wouldn’t want someone else doing it either?
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I have been thinking about this and I just don't want that to happen, but the thing is with people being the way they are (meaning they think they are entitled to everything) how can you stop it?
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I dont think the mutual friend was wrong. If you didnt want people putting pictures up, especially if you, yourself use facebook (and the guest in question has procured the images using legitimate means)- its best to state as much. I sure no one would have gone against her wishes.
Another control mechanism could be to have Camera-control at the door.
But I dont think she has any right to be angry or irritated. If she doesn't like it I am sure heightened privacy settings are just one request away.
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Mmhmm
I had this problem too and there is nothing you can do about it aside from message the people on facebook to limit their settings so not everyone has access to the pictures.
Sorry your friend had to go through that, I know how annoying it can be. :(
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I think you should tell people before or on the day of the events. I went to a wedding where on both days the mother of the bride simply made an announcement that no photos were to be taken of the bride at all. I think thats fair dos.
I think you should tell people before or on the day of the events. I went to a wedding where on both days the mother of the bride simply made an announcement that no photos were to be taken of the bride at all. I think thats fair dos.
I'll suggest it to my mom, but she doesn't really like hearing me talk wedding...... idk why though!
*No she reallly reallly wants to get rid of me lol.... *
Amor I don't think there is really anything you can do until your friend comes back. She didn't specifically say that she didn't want pictures posted up so until she comes back, there isn't anything that you can do.
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Thanks for the responses.
Said friend is still upset about her pictures being put on FB, but has had a word with the mutual friend to up her privacy settings and delete pictures of the bride and groom.
I'm sorry for those of you that have been through the same as my friend, I can understand how upset you must have been by it.
My wedding will be quite a small affair (if I get my own way) so hopefully I won't have this problem. But if someone was to post them, I would have no problem telling them to remove them!
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I think a lot of people just think theyare sharing photos of an important event they attended, and don't realize the bride and groom might be upset. I do think the friend should have asked, but the bride should be as open and honest as she can be about her camera policy.
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we just had my sisters wedding and all the cousins etc who use facebook regularly have been warned that no pictures of the bride and groom or main family members should be on FB. if they want to post their own pictures that is their choice but none of my sis, her hubby, parents, bro's and sis's.
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I think I would ask the mutual friend to remove all the pics with the bride, groom and family. Its fine if you to put up your own pics from the wedding. I think its a great idea to let everyone know that you don't want your picture being published before the wedding.