Punjabi Rasms ??

Lifestyle Wedding, Fashion & Beauty
1

Hi All,

I need to know, is there any tradition in punjabi families where the dulhan walay are supposed to gift joras to the whole family of the groom ?I know that gifts are given to Dulha’s parents and brothers n sisters. does it apply to his chacha chachi n khalain, his grand parents n everyone too ? :confused:

2

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

Thanks God in Sindhis gifts are given by Groom side to groom's relatives chacha chachi, bhabhi, sister and her children.

3

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

exactly !! I’m sindhi n thats what happens in our family. My inlaws are punjabi and we heard of this Rasm. They have a huge family, If we follow this tradition my parents will have to give more then 50 jora :smack:

4

Punjabi Rasms ??

I m getting married in punjabi family but my mil asked me not to give joraz to any chacha n khala she told me they r going to give by themselves.

5

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

my inlaws are punjabis too and there is a rasam when younger brother of groom sits beside her bhabi and asks for money..

6

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

:cb: hamaray han iska ulta hota hai. Girl’s family give gifts to groom side.

7

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

Sadday vi idaan hein hondha vaey…for my wedding my parents gave gifts to my husband’s extended family - Phuppos+phuppas, Chacha+chachi (included daddi+chachi’s mother as well). It’s tradition and besides my parents are beyond generous khulay hutt walay punjabi :hehe:

8

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

It happens in some Uredu speaking families too but we put our foot down and gave only to the immediate family.

9

Punjabi Rasms ??

What happens In Urdu speaking / hydrebadi syed families??? :)

10

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

We're punjabi and that's how it works in our shaadis. Dulhan walay gift the dulhe wale and dulhe wale give gifts to the dulhan walay. Usually just the immediate family members get gifts. Larki/larkas mom, dad, siblings ... sometimes even khalas/phophos. At my cousins shaadi even I was given a jora.

11

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

Dont know about the pnjabi/sindi caste thing but in our family grooms side always gives immediate family outfits ...

12

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

thats unfair :naraz: joras must be given by Groom’s mom to the whole family or the whole muhalla if she’s so happy for her son’s marriage. why becharay dulhan k parents :teary1:

13

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

i dont know im urdu speaking but my inlaws r punjabi we will only give dress to groom's father,sister,and brothers and bhabhi thats it it is called """pehenoni"" in urdu speaking family ...dont know about rest of family .. yeah but i heard if like i dont have mother in law so we will her suit also which they will give to needy person ...

14

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

Oh God! I dont understand this rasams and point of giving gifts to extended family members. Gifts exchanging should be between immediate families. My In Laws and extended family is way big, around about 60/70.. That's a lot of stress for bride family! But since we didn't believe in giving to whole polulation, we only gave to immediate and important members. AllAhumdilulah, My In laws were understanding and agreed. We didn't have to say anything, she mentioed it herself :).

15

Re: Punjabi Rasms ??

Yes!
Am a punjabi too.. & girls side gift to boys side extended family,
khala, maami, chachi, taayi, pupho, nani & dadi..