so you know when everybody tells you to move on and get over it, do you actually do it?
how easy is it to just forget personal issues which you know are lifelong, theres no solution, there never is. I know this, yet i can’t seem to accept it. does this come with age or is my issue not really an issue?
I’m so close yet so far from completing the only thing iv ever strived for my whole life. No one has helped me, in fact quite the opposite, iv had to prove people wrong. Im 5 months off, and i want to give up. I dont want to give up, but it feels as if that my only option. If i give up, iv proved them right. Is my life about proving people right or doing what i want to do?
My only support is professional people, people who do not live with what i have to live with, people who tell me they can advise but can’t really understand. they only understand my needs when it comes to achieving this goal, they can;t help personally. the personal people dont seem to understand the professional situation, they dont care, they want to be proved right.
How do i balance myself and motivate myself to get on with it?
I wud have been easier if u told what it was. But whatever u r coping with, just remember that life is a big challenge . We all face challenges and there is always resistance from somewhere.One must be strong in one's convitions and move on. U got 5 months from ur goal. DONT GIVE UP!!!u r SOOOO close to ur goals!!!!
Be strong,have faith in Allah. U r not alone. Allah is with u!!!!
Keep praying, work hard and wait till u see urselg acheieving the goals other said were impossbile to gain!!!
Inshallah u will feel better. There is always light at the end of the tunnel!!!
babe.... hmmm takign time off aint giving up at all. If you think u need a break then take it.. you may come back fresh.. who cares if u finish a bit late. Theres no harm in that... sheesh i did that!
Try to move on miss. Getting over things takes time. And time will heal wounds.
But dont give up on your dreams. Like you said, you want to prove everyone wrong. You needed a lot of courage to prove everyone in your environment wrong. Courage brings Wisdom, Wisdom brings Strength, Strength brings Courage... See how much you have achieved till now, and see what you have to do. The last steps to your dream.
DONT stop, but keep going, you have only a few months left INshaAllah. What you will feel when you get that special paper, it will make everything ok.
you took the courage to prove em wrong, you achieved wisdom and strenght. Try to believe in yourself. Look at all the people at gs, even they believe in you.
Sadzz n DHTN, life isnt easy for everyone :) So read before making any comments.
sorry Sadzzz, didnt mean to be rude, what I meant to say was, not everyone has the freedom of taking breaks or not thinking about what others care.
There are many factors that play along every decision a person makes in his/her life.
Perhaps you dont care what others think, missy s case, she needs to prove everyone wrong in her life. Its a challenge she took.
And from what I have seen, not many desi girls get the chance to start again after a brake unfortunately
^ in the attempt to prove everyoen wrong u hurt urself... i think thats bad..
i dont think Missy will be proving anyone right or failing if she takes a 3 month break (re: her thread in C&A)
when i was at uni, i had a tough time trying to finish my course and i had family members saying that i couldnt finish it... and even though it took me an extra 6 months to finish... i did it... its nto failing... its called giving urself time
Yes time, she ll get extra time to sit at home and listen to the rest of the family discourage her Picture that for 3 months
The last steps are always the heaviest. And in this case it doesnt matter what you or I think. Missy herself said she wanted to prove everyone wrong.
I understand if she had several years to go, to take a break, but she only has a few months InshaAllah.
And about you, I m sorry to hear that you had some family members who put you down, but it sounds as if you had family members who supported you all the time aswell ?
offtopic/ Well done ke you finished after a break. :k: I have seen many fall after breaks
sweetheart..this is exactly what I intended to say. What I said is really strong in regards to making choices. My entire life, I have tried my best to stick to this notion that if I make proud choices, it will make my life worth living. It just makes perfect sense to me. I don’t know about you.
One day at a time. Whatever problem you have what ever the situation is you do it one day at a time. You don't day dream 10 years down the road. That does not help. You do what you can today to make sure that day dream comes in 10 years.
Everything comes with age. When you are in your teens you feel you can do everything and over come everything. Age tempers your expectations.
You have to accept whatever problem you have. You have no choice. It is just about mentally condiotioning yourself to accept it.
Iv decided to take a break. im in denial if i think im strong enough to cope, i know im not. I think it takes a certain amount of effort and strength to admit that i cant go on with the way things are now. My personal issue is effecting me to the point where i want to give up on life, let alone my career. I think i need to take a step back, understand my issue and try to fix it rather then add more and more pressure on to myself. If i keep on going il be digging myself a bigger hole. I cant do something right unless my mind is clear and understands what i have to do. I can't afford to carry on going and mess in a few weeks time, that makes it harder.
I shouldnt need to prove anything to my family. If i fear them then really im fearimg myself, i cant allow them to control me. The only person i owe something to is myself.
Ok, with that done, thanks everyone for your advice, im sorry if i havn't followed it.
Look if taking a step back means giving up your job and whatever you do daily, that is not courage or smart. Rather that is removing yourself from things that can keep you busy or normal. Do you have someone to talk to, no not a psychologist. But someone you can discuss your problems with?
No man is an island unto himself. Wiser words were never spoken. People are not meant to be solitary. Talk to someone about your problem if you aren't now. Confide in someone, it eases the burden a great deal.
Im not giving up my job, if i keep on going i will fail. Im allowed to extend my course if need be, and trust me, i have a need to. please dnt tell me im giving up, because im not, I mentally and emotional cannot do what i have to do right now, so i think by giving myself some time to...i dunno, reorgansise myself, il be able to do what i have to do better.
talking does not help, the right people dnt listen and the people who do listen cannot help.
I don't need a shink though, Im a psychologist myself, so im going to sort myself out when i can afford to.
Hey you know better than me or anybody else. But don't take too long a break. That won't work out at all. Now talking to people ain't about fixing the problem. It is about getting the pressure off of you. Trust me talking helps. Enough people talk to me for me to know that it works extremely well.
The idea is not to fix the problem. The idea is to discuss it and unburden the pressure on yourself. Find someone you trust and talk to them even if they can't solve the problem
