Man Hunting…
That’s what my mom’s been upto this past week…hunting for men…not for herself although she insists that some of them would rather have her(yeah right)…but she’s been hunting for a man for me.
She’s been on the phone with her friends (read rishta aunties)..giving them my specifications..her words to describe me are mainly…smart…intelligent and funny.
Little does she realize that men are looking for the golden words…slim, fair and beautiful (which I am so far from)…
Well all the better for me if my mom makes me out to be a nerdy clown (smart, intelligent and funny) hehehe.
My mom’s so excited…looking at pictures of young handsome and not so handsome men…she’s tried to leave pictures all around the house hoping I’d catch a glipse of one “prince” and then magically fall in love…sheesh
Although she doesn’t intend on marrying me for another year or so I guess she’s looking out for a “good” boyfriend cum potential husband…someone I can go out with…so I can have a date to the next social “ball”.
For what it’s worth…I never wanted to get married…but then love struck me in the head at point blank range. Mom knows it..yet she tries to ignore it..but anyways…men will come and go and I’ll say NO without looking.
Then one of my female friends said..“Conchita…you idiot…you got a free ticket to meeting guys, socializing and making new friends…your mom is willing to let you go out with people and parties..functions..think about it”
But I told her…what about the expectations of that guy…he’s going out with me thinking that there is a future in the relationship…
My friend rebuked me and said that lay down the ground rules…tell him tha all you got to offer is friendship and nothing else…that way in the end when Mr. Knight comes along..you’re safe.
Well..my friend is a wild creature…but in my opnion…somehow somewhere down the line someone could get hurt…especially the unlucky guy…
Although this is one way to stop my mom from any further “man hunting”…it’s a very dangerous situation if the guy I go out with starts to develop feelings for me.
I know people in a similar situation…a couple in love..but can’t be together at the moment..so one of em gets a “proxy” partner to ward off possible “rishtas”…and in the end…the “proxy” partner gets attached and becomes the other partners “public enemy”.
Confusing..but it happens…and I’d hate for it to happen to me…if I say NO…to my mom and remind her that I’m already in love with someone..the most she’s gona do is NOT talk to be for a day…so I won’t have a social life…so I won’t be able to go out..but atleast I know I’m not causing my partner any pain…and I also knwo that once he’s gets here…I’ll have all the love and “fun” 
in the world.
So this is just a lil warning for those out there who want to get yourselves “proxy” partners…DON’T…because I’ve seen the mess it can bring…and very often ANY question put forth by the “lone” partner is often treated as “mistrust”…when it could just be a simple question…