You don't have to love your mother in law, but respect and courtesy go a long long way. You imagine a brother of yours married to a girl who speaks ill of you own mother and I'm pretty sure that you wouldn't be best pleased.
She is your husbands mother - she gave birth to him, she looked after him when he was sick as a child and she has helped to turn him in to the man that he is today. Yes her comments are maybe not wholly appropriate but that doesn't man that your response to it is the feeling that you want to 'slap' her. As other posters said that is totally disrespectful of you.
A lot of girls have it way worse than you trust me (not that you have ANY real issues here in my opinion). You need to grow up and should count your lucky stars that these are your only problems with her.
well in the mixture of being hormonal at the moment could be this, or maybe its just me, how on earth can i be normal as you guys say i should be...why do i flare up instantly.....it could be to do with past exp, where everyone in the fmaily as well, seems to take adv of my parents, or walk all over them, and my parents are the types who have it written on their foreheads please walk over me.....and i cant stand it when it happens to them, mum always says allah dekhey ga....
im actually fairly sick of hearing that, and maybe im overcompensating for my parents....past and present experiences, maybe im angry or something, and before i would never be so rash or harsh, however over the years i think ive grown into a sullen, always quick to be right/answer back/say something/feel something/ and generally im way more assertive than i was, before i was submissive like my parents..
so yeh MIL could be ok NOW, is ok now, however i feel like its all a FACADE and itl break and il be ready for it,....not that it makes a difference even if im not.
You consider talking to her once a week as a chore, feel like slapping her, can’t stand her even when she is quiet & yet you expect her to text you or text her son saying she misses you!?? **GROW UP!!!
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Please stop using this as ur excuse already.. in every single thread of yours, u b!tch about someone so rudely and then use ur pregnancy as an excuse... enough already...
If my mother heard me talking about my MIL (or anyone else) in this manner if I was married n pregnant, I would've recieved two juttis on my head regardless of my pregnancy..
nadzz... honestly love... ive been reading your threads for a long time now but rarely post.. but today.. honestly... ure husband is a jannati admi for putting up with you and your in laws awesome for still liking you :)
you need some major self reflection girl... no offence intended.. u post your problems online and ask for a serious opinion and take on the situation... one pce of advice that i would like to give you: change your behaviour towards your in laws and husband. most of your problems will go away on their own :) you think too much bout things and read even way more in between the lines. chor do. you wont get anything out of it cept bitterness :)
no hard feelings. i know i would definately want someone to tell me if i was coming across as the silly one.
i think you just have issues with her because you dont want to move here, and your mil's not helping with letting you set in. find out the cause of it all, or you'll turn into someone that you despised in the first place.
Come on…show some respect to her…u feel like “slapping” her when she hasnt done anything “majorly bad”(as u put it) with u…how wud u feel if ur hubby uses the same language abt ur mom???its tit fot tat dear…respect ur MIL and expect the same from ur husband…otherwise dont expect too much from ur hubby too
you mil is your husbands mother she brought him into this world and made him into the man he is today,whatever you do for him still cannot be compared to a mothers sacrifice,in time youll see.
your husband calls his mom everyweek ,whats the big deal at least he owes her that much,how would you feel if you were in you mil shoes and your child hardly calls you.
my husband phones his parents religiously every week on a certain day ,if he even calls half hour late they straight away tell him today your late ,they wait for him just to call,and I am always happy when he calls, for which dua they give him shows that they are pleased.
*just call her once a week for the sake of it. i think this is so important and when your baby comes, that kid will be so attached, as dadi amma's are favourites! *
when you call her, make up questions to ask just for the sake of prolonging the conversation. e.g. even if you know how to cook a certain dish, ask her what to do if the onions are too browned or what else to put in chicken curry etc? or ask her what you should cook today?! just make up something to make a convo. ask about the weather, about her other kids, about your FIL, what she has been doing all day etc?
she's still your mother-in-law and you want to keep peace with her.
I dont know why. She just annoys me (and i thought my saas still has not reached her limits ;)), even when shes not talking, even shes ok. i find her fake and things she says p*** me off (wow! honestly know matter watever my saas has done and how she has treated me, i have the utmost respect for her, because she is the mother of my hubby and of course a old lady 50+), like even her son, my husband, thye are very well educated family, and all, and so is he, but he seems to find it hard getting a job here, so at the mo he was doing retail work and stuff, and they look down on that, his mum openly says to him yeh to sharam wali baat hai, yah kya kaam kare ho....its pathetic...i wana slapp her when she says that because he gets all down about it but wont openly say so..... (like WTF! she is his mother, whether she says like that or throws him outta the window, deary u came after in their life, Remember!!!!!! therefore his mother has and will always have 99% haq on her son)
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr and its this that makes me wana slap her one. i dnt have that tolerance level or other bahus who may be jee jee this and jee jee that, i am doing all the jeesss jeeesss at the moment, but its hard and im gritting my teeth as i jee jee.....shes ok otherwise, nothing major, its the minor BS.... (other bahus do the right thing in jee jee stuff, because they don't want to break their marriage.)
I can understand being frustrated if your husband is working hard at an entry level job, and his parents are busting his chops ke "you're so much better than this".
Parents don't understand what the economy is today. All the hotshot jobs in the West go to the guys who are part of the good ol' boys Harvard, etc group, and then the rest of us get what's left over. And it's not uncommon to start with entry level jobs even after getting a good degree.
