I’ve noticed this so often but fail to understand the full notion of the “why” aspect of it. How come when guys and gals are checking out “potentials” or rishtas, they mostly seem to want total similarity education-wise/profession-wise? For ex. a physician girl only wants a physician guy, a lawyer guy wants a girl in the legal field, a girl with a PhD wants someone who is at least a PhD, a guy that wants an MBA like himself. Rarely do I see someone who is open to anything in his/her spouse relative to education/profession. The thing I have also noticed is, ironically, our parents seem to want those things for us too even though we may be more open-minded.
Suppose the guy has a PhD and the girl has a BA or the girl has an MBA and the guy has a BS or the guy has an MBA and the girl has an AA. I can understand that a person should look for another who is equally intelligent, capable, motivated, etc. but should it also translate itself literally as in TOTAL similarities between the guy and the gal educationally/professionally?
Well, speaking from experience....when a couple has similar background, they can relate more to each other, talk about work and really understand the other's job, understand things like overtime, job stresses etc. Its a very good thing to have that type of understanding especially in a high-stress field. If the partner has no knowledge about the daily stresses of the other's career, they cannot relate at all and this can cause quite a bit of friction. Generally speaking of course.
kyun IT “chicks” mein kia burai hae khayr acha hi hae coz then meri baradri [IT] se kisi kurri kee kismat toh nai na phootay gi after getting married wiv u
^ You’d get used to it. It’s nothing like the cases where a girl grows up believe this guy is her brother, he believes the same. The parents then tell them that they’re actually just cousins and they’re to get married.
I really don’t wanna marry someone from my field, it would get boring after a while. Waisei I m not sure jo bhi qismat main likha hain lekin I would prefer someone from an IT field. I kinda like the whole 9 to 5 scene.
So who says "women and IT dont go together"??? I was making six figures a year on Wall street as an "IT chick" when I left the field to be home with my babies. I was good at what I did and I completely understand where my husband is coming from when he tell me what he faces each day in the world of wall street technology.
As far as cousin marrying, its just wrong. Inbreeding causes genetic problems - so much more so than age-related factors.
As far as wanting similar education backgrounds, I think this is a modern dilemma. Back in the day it was the man who was the bread winner and he just wanted a wife who would be at home, taking care of him, the kids and to stay subservient. Now people want equal partners because they want to love and respect each other on a different level. One example is my Pupho who is a pathologist in Syracuse. Her husband is not educated really, comes up with half-assed business schemes that all go down in flames before they barely begin. So anyways he had major insecurities about 'being a man' and providing...which he never did. She used to run late during her residency and get yelled at by him as though she was just out having fun. He had no idea of what she was going through and expected her to just be there for him as a subservient wife.
Well they're still together because my Pupho is an angel (Allah Bless her). But he's onto wife #2 in Pakistan and has drained her bank accounts. He's living off the fruits of her success and gets mad if she spends her own money. She is such an angel that she just stays quiet. So my point is that whether it's a male or female perspective, you want someone who can relate and understand your point of view, who can share in your vision and be your equal. Perhaps men these days also view a 'trophy wife' as more than looks, but by degrees also. As though a wife with a PhD is a reflection on him and how much deserving he is of a woman with such brains, drive, ...etc.
kyun IT “chicks” mein kia burai hae 
khayr acha hi hae coz then meri baradri [IT] se kisi kurri kee kismat toh nai na phootay gi after getting married wiv u 
