Prophet Muhammed (Pbuh) and His wife Hazrat Aisha

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Every act that our beloved Prohet Muhammed did during his life is an example for us and for the humanity. And everything he had done was very logical. But I am trying to comprehend two facts:

  1. Prophet Muhammed got married to Hazrat Aisha when she was 9 years old and Prophet Himself was in his 50’s. There has to be a reason why he at the age of 56 got married to Hazrat Aisha who was only 9 … can anyone please educate me the logical reasonings.

  2. Prohet Muhammed had an adopted son Mohammed who got married to Zainab and then He divorced Zainab and then Prophet Muhammed got married to Hazrat Zainab.

I am only trying to comprehend the logical aspects of the occurances.

regards

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its been some time since i last read this article, but you might find it helpful

regarding the marriage to Zainab… Jamal Badawi has written

“One of the Prophet’s marriages was obviously for a legislative reason; his marriage to Zainab Daughter of Jahsh. Zainab was a cousin of the Prophet. He persuaded her to marry his freed slave and former “adopted son” Zaid. The apparent reason for his encouragement, in spite of her reluctance was to break the attitude of aristocracy where a person from a noble stock would not consider marrying a commoner. The prophet sought to affirm the egalitarian nature of Islam where a person should be evaluated only on the basis of his/her qualities and moral conduct, not on the basis of his/her socio-economic status. Marital problems between Zaid and Zainab led eventually to divorce. The Arabs considered an adopted son, the same as a biological son. They gave him his adopting father’s name, a custom that the Qur’an invalidated as it demanded truthful lineal identity. [Qur’an, 33:4-5; 40] Since this custom was a taboo, no one other than the Prophet was fit enough to start and lead the breaking of that taboo and implement the new divine law. A careful study of the Qur’an describes such a reason. It indicates that the Prophet was commanded to initiate this change in a practical manner by marrying Zainab, the divorcee of his former “adopted son” Zaid [Qur’an, 33: 37-39]. Some writers forsook the most authentic source of the Prophet’s life; the Qur’an, in favor of less authentic narrations even though some normally reliable historians reported it. According to these often contradictory narrations, Zaid divorced his wife so that the Prophet can legitimately marry her. Aside from the unauthenticity of the story and its contradiction to the Qur’anic explanation, it is totally illogical. Zainab, after all was a cousin of the Prophet and he saw and knew her for decades as a close relative. She would have been most honored to accept to marry the Prophet if he wished. Why would the Prophet persuade her to marry his former slave to dwell with her as her husband, then divorces her so that the Prophet can marry her? Why not marry her before living with another man as a wife?”

i’m sure others will be able to contribute more

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1) Prophet Muhammed got married to Hazrat Aisha when she was 9 years old and Prophet Himself was in his 50's. There has to be a reason why he at the age of 56 got married to Hazrat Aisha who was only 9 .... can anyone please educate me the logical reasonings.
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I think Gupguppy has given a good link for the answer of your question. You should read it.

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2) Prohet Muhammed had an adopted son Mohammed who got married to Zainab and then He divorced Zainab and then Prophet Muhammed got married to Hazrat Zainab.
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1.In Surah AL-AHZAB chapter number 33 verse number 37**
** "Behold! Thou didst say to one who had received the grace of Allah and thy favour: "Retain thou (in wedlock) thy wife, and fear Allah." But thou didst hide in thy heart that which Allah was about to make manifest: thou didst fear the people, but it is more fitting that thou shouldst fear Allah. Then when Zaid had dissolved (his marriage) with her, with the necessary (formality), We joined her in marriage to thee: in order that (in future) there may be no difficulty to the Believers in (the matter of) marriage with the wives of their adopted sons, when the latter have dissolved with the necessary (formality) (their marriage) with them. And Allah's command must be fulfilled. **"

** In Surah AL-AHZAB chapter number 33 verse number 4**
"Allah has not made for any man two hearts in his (one) body: nor has He made your wives whom ye divorce by Zihar your mothers:** nor has He made your adopted sons your sons. Such is (only) your (manner of) speech by your mouths**. But Allah tells (you) the Truth, and He shows the (right) Way. "

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according to sahih hadiths, Muhammad married Aisha when she was 6, not 9. She was 9 when they first had sex.

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Well thank you for the info.. the link is great and I had seen something similar to this before. BUT, I was inclined to comprehend the logical aspect of why he got married to her @ the age of 6 ?

The reasonings of why with Zainab is well depicted. BUT the reasoning with Hazrat Aisha does not appeal the logical aspect and I am sure there has to be some LOGIC which perhaps I am missing.

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Ok now I am giving the answer. You can see most women whom got married by our prophet, most of them were divorsed and widows. About marring Ayesha you must know that Sayyedna Abu Bakker Sidique were the best friend and the companion of our Prophet, as Quran it self declares. Thats why for making this relation more strong, he married Umm-ul- Mo'mineen Ayesha (may Allah please with her).

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^ There is much more to the matter.

There are various theories about Aisha (R) which may or may not be true, since it seems there are a lot of hadith's out there that contradict one another, and each hadith is claimed to be strong by some and weak by others. So its hard to reach a definite conclusion.

One theory says that she was not 9 when she consummated the marriage with the Prophet - you see her age is estimated because of what it says in various hadith's. A calculation is made by estimations made by various hadith reporters because her death is remembered in relation to other events during the Prophet's life.

There is no written document or anything that can conclusively tell us what age the Prophet and Aisha were when they were married and when they consummated the marriage.

So please be careful and wary of the claim that she was 9 and he was 50 something.

The other theory I'l like to bring in, is that his marriage to Aisha was not really a political alliance so much as it was because he liked her. Many people don't agree with this theory, since they don't leave room for Romance in the Prophet's life. But this theory does say that he admired her mind and her maturity - for it is said that she was very mentally mature for her age.

And naturally she proved it historically. Darn. The only woman I know who led the Arabs in a battle. I dont care if her reasons were right or wrong, but just the audacity of that...

woah.

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Edit

Please avoid insults.

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where is the link or in which book u read this???

plzzz give some proof???

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About Prophet (pbuh) marriage to Hazrat Zainab (ra)

It may be clear from above posts that the real motives were to :

**1. Clear ambiguity that foster relationships are not equal to Real realations, so to leave no doubts on people’s minds.

  1. Clear the ambiguity(if any), that Cousin marraiges are allowed in Islam.

  2. Prophet(pbuh) had no real son who lived beyond the age of infancy. **

for more details, read the explaination(tafseer) of quranic verses.

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Re: Marriage with Hazrat Aysha (ra) at young age

It is common amoung young muslims, to digest this reality. You may have read quite detailed explainantions but they don’t sound logical/convincing ?

First of all, the number is very irreletive. 6,9,11,13 take anyone it does not matter much.
The fact, Hazrat Aysha came to the house of prophet(pbuh) after she reached the age of puberty (thats for sure ) now equate with any number, 9, 10 ,11 ,12 its upto you.

Now the question,

why her parents sent her to the house of prophet at such a young age, just after reaching puberty ?

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Why her parents Married her off to Prophet (pbuh) at such a tender age ?

The answer is very simple, there were no schools/colleges at that time so they sent her to the best institute for learning (prophet himself) so that she may get education and teach other muslim men and women all her life :slight_smile:

Oops ^ that again is not convincing :frowning: my bad.

Alternate answer:

All boys and girls were considered for marraige once they reached puberty …
normal age for marraige 12,13 for girl and for boy 16,17.

Why were they used to marry them so early ?

Because of Low life expectancy !

There were :

  1. Lots of conflicts, wars (killing men)
  2. lots of disease, famine (killin people)
  3. lots of miscarraiges (killing women)

As in this age, we do not see so many avoidable deaths. So our pattern of life and life expectany has changed. There is no famine every 4,5 years, no wars where you have to take part and 50 % chance of coming alive, health care is improved beyond execptations. So now people, wait for marraige a little longer, there is pretty good chance that bride and groom will be alive next year :slight_smile: In those year they never had this luxury

Oh I remember, My grandmother had her first baby at the age around 15 :slight_smile: before that she had a miscarriage :frowning: and before that she got married, I dont know her exact age at the time of marriage, But i think it was after she reached puberty :ahaa:

She may have died during miscarriage, but thank God she lived.

Awwww Everybody get here
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^ Yep, my grandma was married at 16 or 18, I think.

Had her first kid at 20.

That was pretty late for their time though.

My roommate's grandmother - an Irani muslim - was married and sent off with her husband RIGHT after she hit puberty - she was 11 when she first had sex.

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I read but that reading will be nullified since it was written by an Ahmadi, but this Ahmadi proved that Aisha was in actuality 16 or 17 when she was married to the messenger, contrary to 6 or 9 to portray Mohammad as a pedophile.

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who is ahmadi

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lot of people think that elderly man can be like a father to a 6 or 9 year old girl and vice versa, the above threads prove that a non mahram cannot be assumed a parent in either case. in 1999 school childrens were in nursing home in some part of usa so senior citizens would tell stories to these kids but actually a very elderly resident got one girl pregnant who was just 10yrs old and i have seen lot of pregnant girls 9-10 yrs old come in to get their prenatal meds at place i work! so ISLAM HAS LOGIC FOR EVERY ACTION WAS TAKEN BY OUR BELOVED PROPHET RSAWS(PBUH).

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who is ahmadi
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Ahmadis are Qadiyanis and they are declared Non-muslims in Pakistani Law. Because they dont believe on the theory of "Last Prophet" or prophetism is ended by prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H.).

Want to know more, ask freely.

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lot of people think that elderly man can be like a father to a 6 or 9 year old girl and vice versa, the above threads prove that a non mahram cannot be assumed a parent in either case. in 1999 school childrens were in nursing home in some part of usa so senior citizens would tell stories to these kids but actually a very elderly resident got one girl pregnant who was just 10yrs old and i have seen lot of pregnant girls 9-10 yrs old come in to get their prenatal meds at place i work! so ISLAM HAS LOGIC FOR EVERY ACTION WAS TAKEN BY OUR BELOVED PROPHET RSAWS(PBUH).
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Yes I agree. You can see, in Europe or USA, they dont marry a person or child, they commit rape or sexual relation. If they marry to the person or child, it will be legal to have kids.