So i was thinking…
some people are good at connecting with others…and developing friendships etc..
some are not…
does it hold true that those who are able to forge friendships are also more successful in getting into and mainting romantic relationships… compared to those who have a tough time making friendships??
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I would assume so. Logically it makes sense people who are able to make new friends easily would have a larger circle of friends. Hence a higher chance of developing a romantic relationship. I am not sure if it would be true in terms of maintaining that relationship. Then again if they are good with people and communication they would be able to use that in the romantic relationship as well.
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Romantic relationships are two sided. Your romance means nothing if the dude you're romancing with is like a drywall.
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I wouldnt think so! I think getting into frnshps is a total diff thing compared 2 getting into a romantic relationship. just cuz somebody is friendlier doesnt mean they have better chances for a romantic relationship and/or to sustain it. Infact if anything i had think the chances of the opposite seem more, dnt ask me why cuz rite now i m nt in the mood to explain 
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The softer the wood of a tree, the more branches it develops. A person with a soft heart and tone can easily make more friends and would easily get going in a relationship and vice versa.
There are people who have many good qualities but the harshness of their tone hides their traits, hence repelling friends and ruining chances of relationships. On the other hand, there are people whose sweet tone hides their ordinary personality, hence attracting more friends and potential chances of relationships.
Meet'hey bol mein jaado hai jo sar charh kar bolta hai.
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Those some people who are good at connecting with other people, most of them do it for their gain. They actually have no real friends. You are their friend today and next day they wouldnt even want to know you. Their friends dont really mean much to them because they just have too many of them. true story!
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Being a good friend doesn't always mean you can be a good partner in a romantic relationship, or even a good husband/wife although sometimes it can help.
Personally I think it's easier in relationships if you're a bit more open-minded about the other person, which is easier to do in a friendship than a proper relationship maybe.
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I guess its true. The first step towards a romantic relationship is friendship. Even if it was 'love at first sight' kind of BS, if a girl and guy are not friendly enough to carry on a friendly and engaging conversation with each other, the fisrt sight infatuation would immediately get disappeared. So a person being friendly (not just to the one he/ she is targetting for a romantic relationship but being friendly with everyone) is very important in being able to get into a romantic relationship.
If a person is friendly, he/ she will naturally get many admirers and thus easy to get into romantic relationships. So I guess entering into a romantic relationship is easier for friendly person. Maintaining the romantic relationships needs equal work by friendly as well as non-friendly person.
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I have a good friend - he is slightly on the softly spoken easy going side and as a result he makes loads of friends - especially better than average female friends - he was the envy of the college crew - however not once did he manage a relationship - it was because he was like a girl - not gay - but too much like them and that made him become "the brother" instead of the boy friend ... I think for a man to make a set of romantic connections he needs to do the following:
a) Give gifts - this is essential
b) Avoid being mushy to them in public - private space is a different matter
c) Be macho - i.e. fend off other males with a bit of psychological aggression
d) Show utter respect to them as if they have hired you for being their personal bodyguard
This is the tired and tested method NomiCA ...
Many blokes make fundamental mistakes - if they come on too mushy too quickly and in public it seems slimy and perverted ... otherwise if a male is too with it - like knows about colours and dresses and comments on girls looks too platonically then they will start to make him their mascot instead of someone to have a relationship with ...
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lol I have the hardest time connecting with men when it comes to love/romance and I am the kind of person who can walk into a room and make friends right away.
Friendship requires one to be nice and kind, which I think I am. But it seems like men generally dig for some sort of a fantasy, romantic woman with an attitude which I am not. I mean, I almost barfed when my dad decided to take my mom to watch Titanic 3D...:/