*~*~*Promoting Positive Behaviour in young children*~*~*

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i am not a Mummy yet, but would love to hear how all u Mum’s an Dad’s promote Posive Behaviour in your kiddies…

and if there was ever a time when ur child had difficult behaviour, how did u deal with it? did u find out why ur child was behaving tht way? and did the way, u deal with the behaviour work?

Plz share…

P.s. Be Honest

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I fixed my nephew. Can I share?

;) Choose A Profession 4 Above Person ;)
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plz share...:)

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I’ll give a recent example.

At my daughter’s parent teacher meeting a few weeks ago, I was told that my 6 year old has some great leadership skills but sometimes she uses them at the wrong time and the wrong place. She likes to be in charge and takes a lead on any class project. She wants everyone to hear her and doesn’t like to be second. In fact she sometimes even wants to direct the teacher :smack:.

So hubby and I sat her down and explained that she cannot lead until she first learns to follow. We explained the concept of competition and sharing. We told her how she needs to be a good listener and gave her examples of when we were kids. I told her exactly how she felt, because I felt the same way too…but I found out that it was better if she listened and waited her turn because then she will be happy and everyone would be happy as well. She was a bit frazzled and upset but a few weeks later I am told that she has improved.

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My all time fav. nephew was hyper active. In every single move. You press break in the car he would act like a spring.
He had paw fights with the cat, bit cat tail many time. Never played with other kids. It was too boring for him.

One time I was passing by bazaar on foot, I saw this guy selling book on the side walk. I started looking.
I saw this about 200 pages book about hyper active kids.
bought it.
I was surprised when I read it. It was like author was talking about my nephew.

So I picked up all the suggestion , Stopped Bhabi from what ever she was doing told her what to do.
Like every thing need to be in short spans, mom has to explain what other kids feel when they play etc etc

I worked so well that my cousin also wanted that book to fix his kid.

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I promote positive behaviour, by praisin my daughters good behaviour by givin kisses, hugs smiles and sayin well done, and also telling others eg husband what a clever girl she is, so that she feels valued and special and when she does something wrong I do the above but slightly different eg tell my husband that she has misbehaved, be sad, and show this expression on my face explain that what she has done has upset me, and dont give her the attention, as I would with the positive behaviour.

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good one Nikki, ur Daughter reminds me of my lil niece…:cb:

Reminds me:D Good listening skills are very important, and u can teach them by doing the following:

Get a very special lil bear(or just improvise)

tell ur child tht u have a very special friend tht u would like to introduce to them, but the friend is very shy and doesnt like noise, tell ur child tht they need to show you good listening skills b4 u take out ur special friend.

Good listeners should be able to :

~ sit still

~ be quite

~ look at the speaker

~ remember what the speaker has said

and now the special friend can play a number of games with u and ur child to help them to listen and remember e.g putting objects infront of ur child then covering them and taking one object away, and see if ur child remembers what was taken away, or play a game similar to “simon says” (but instead use the special friends name) etc.. etc…

I will try to share what i know with you guy’s, if it helps. hope u guys wont mind, and i dont think i know it all…:slight_smile:

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aaaaa

hellooooo
I wrote a long post too!

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CE, thanks for sharing. It's great to get tips from someone who is specialized in this area.

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Jimmy ur nephew bit the cats tail?

CE shocked

:cb: why dont u sare ur book with us…

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like WWF he use to hold cat’s tail give her circles and let her go.

Don’t remember the name of that book. It was a while back in Pak.

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Aww poor cat...

how old was ur nephew when he used to bite? and has he stopped with the bitting now?

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2-3 I guess, cat loved him so much too. When he bother her too much she would stand on her to legs and hit my nephew with her paws. But in a way he wont get injured.
The I got rid of that cat.

Because some time my nephew would act like a cat. crawl on four limbs, rubbing bally against chair etc I mean all cat things.

then We sent cat to our "pind".
one he missed her so we all went to see the cat lolzzzzzzzzz

no kidding.

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I've seen time and time again that praise of good behavior promotes more good behavior.

We had some trouble with the middle guy who is extemely strong willed. Time outs and loss of privelege or toy didnt work well actually not at all. He got a diaper-swat or two and finally came to understand that rules are rules. After that, time outs and loss of privelege always worked.

Youngest had a case of the "terrible twos" when he was 3...at times he could be a real monster. If he didnt want to get dressed, he would scream and kick me. If he didnt want to go out when I needed to go out, same thing (my parents used to call them his "hissy sheet fits" lol. Anyway, we figured out finally that we were not being consistent with him and not providing enough structure for him. Something that was ok one day was not ok another day. Since he was the baby in the family, we gave in to that. But once we realized how poorly it affected him, we started being very consistent and structured his day. It was amazing how quickly things turned around. This was all very much thanks to that TV show "Supernanny"...we followed her style and approach and really within a week (or maybe it was less), we had a little angel.

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^lol"hurray to Supernanny"..............:D

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forgot to mention, a good listner also :

~ does not intrupt the speaker:)