Re: Promises
Guys guys guys ... relax a little bit. The guy wants to finish his education and doesn't wanna mooch off of the grl's money. He wants to be able to earn and provide for both of htem thats the biggest reason he can't marry. Secondly, his family would never agree to it and as far as I know the girl's family won't agree to it either. He got into an academic suspension in a group project where some of the group partners copied and pasted a journal article for pretty much the whole project hence the suspension. I am not saying he is not at fault for this ... because he is but the girl doesn't wanna agree to an engagement and he can't marry her at the moment.
We're not saying that the guy wants to mooch off the girl, but the parents, both his and hers, might get that impression and it won't sit well with either of them.
I say keep trying to talk to the girl and tell her that an engagement is like a formal committment that both her parents and the guy's would be more willing to agree to. She might be getting rishtas or feeling pressured to get married by her parents as well. How long can she stall them, right? Guy should keep talking to her and try to get her to understand his concerns, the parents' perspective, while also being sensitive to her needs by compromising on a time frame.