as a student i had a pretty arrogant fellow student in my lab group, all other students in the group were pretty cool and even if they were quite knowledgeable they wouldn’t be condescending or mean but this particular one spoke in a belittling way and even when i tried to take part in the cisco troubleshooting labs for one lab he wouldn’t include me.
i was a good student that did get the good grades so it was frustrating getting along with him, i never showed my anger and took it smoothly each time.
now that i’m done with my deg, if i do get a job with somebody similar in our group and i’m sure i will how do i handle it, how do people experienced in industry deal with the arrogant people that don’t want to work well in a team environment. being professional is so important…i don’t want to break in such situations
Hang in there you will learn all the real life skills when you fact it. I did. I was such a naive person when I started my practical life. Life taught me lots of lessons.
Hang in there you will learn all the real life skills when you fact it. I did. I was such a naive person when I started my practical life. Life taught me lots of lessons.
thanks for the sweet words but how did you get through some of those sticky situations at work? like when a coworker was being difficult or arrogantly rude, how did you respond is what i meant, without getting angry
My advice would be to keep at a psychological distance from the situation that’s distressing you. If you perceive the behavior of your colleague to be personal, then your reactions may turn out to be excessive as well. Secondly, in your interactions with the person, make sure your demeanor is such that you exude confidence in your work and undertakings... however, make sure that in doing so, you don’t cross over to the arrogance side yourself :D – there’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance.
Lastly, if the intimidation is persistent, then you need to somehow indicate to the person that you’re not going to be shy and timid about not confronting them about it. One way is to reiterate the person’s behavior to them in the context of a question... e.g. “I’m just wondering whether you meant to be rude / condescending when you did/said xxx , or was that unintentional?”. This way, you provide them with feedback and send the message that you’re not going to be taken for granted. You set your boundaries and signal that your coworker can’t simply dominate your space.
thanks lucid chaotic, i hope i don't come across a situation like that but your comment did help with ways of dealing with it, you're awesome for helping me :-)