Producing offsprings is not enough!!

[KKF]

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@Ethan_Hunt

I’ve had my share with them. I got some hosla afzai from stranger at a shaadi and my parents didn’t mind it at all, they thanked him, phir unho ne meri aur izzat ki.

masha Allah

it’s also MY observation that little girls are more well behaved than little boys. boys are destructive in nature.

i saw one boy last year in a wedding who played with Barbies alongside girls! was so cute to watch him coming Barbie’s hairs!

he’ll be a very understanding husband when he gets married, if he ever gets married!

[sadzzz]

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@Prairie_Girl

I said it’s my observation and never generalized that goras have better behaved kids than desis :@
First of all I’m a parent of MashAllah 2 kids a teenager and a 7 year old! I’m proud to say that I have brought them up very well! I have seen all the phases and stages and have tried to deal with them in the best possible way!
What I meant was that parents need to spend a lot of time with their kids and understand them.
If a child is not comfortable in a restaurant or an environment and goes wild screaming and misbehaving, it’s the parents duty to find out instead of torturing the rest of the people!

I did not know there was a limit to which a topic could be discussed!

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i apologise for my bad… and for the assumption I made.

You know, parenting is very hard. One of the toughest things one could probably do.

As I said earlier, I do agree some parents just need to be more on top of their kids. Kids need undivided attention… unfortunately we need to have eyes at the back of our heads (hands, legs.. etc)

Ive learnt the hard way about telling certain people to be on top of their game… people dont take it well. Lol.

Ive got a pretty shareef 7 year old, and a ladi dadi da of a toddler… so who knows what I am going to be up against as time goes on. All I know is, they are my number one priority. No matter where we are, they need to be within my vision.

Having said that, I am no fantastic parent. Could be better

[Prairie_Girl]

@sadzzz

@Prairie_Girl

I said it’s my observation and never generalized that goras have better behaved kids than desis :@
First of all I’m a parent of MashAllah 2 kids a teenager and a 7 year old! I’m proud to say that I have brought them up very well! I have seen all the phases and stages and have tried to deal with them in the best possible way!
What I meant was that parents need to spend a lot of time with their kids and understand them.
If a child is not comfortable in a restaurant or an environment and goes wild screaming and misbehaving, it’s the parents duty to find out instead of torturing the rest of the people!

I did not know there was a limit to which a topic could be discussed!

.

i apologise for my bad… and for the assumption I made.

You know, parenting is very hard. One of the toughest things one could probably do.

As I said earlier, I do agree some parents just need to be more on top of their kids. Kids need undivided attention… unfortunately we need to have eyes at the back of our heads (hands, legs.. etc)

Ive learnt the hard way about telling certain people to be on top of their game… people dont take it well. Lol.

Ive got a pretty shareef 7 year old, and a ladi dadi da of a toddler… so who knows what I am going to be up against as time goes on. All I know is, they are my number one priority. No matter where we are, they need to be within my vision.

Having said that, I am no fantastic parent. Could be better

Parenting is a tough job!
That’s what I say that kids need undivided attention. A kid gets into the habit of crying Only if his needs are met when he cries and the parents do not pay attention otherwise.

I’m sure you are an awesome parent!
Love to your munchkins

[shawns]

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You have to put a lot of thought energy and effort into raising kids, a lot of times people just try to learn as they go along, we have to read books about this stuff explore different view points and then establish strategies, humans and elephants are the only 2 species that learn by observing, If parents are yellers and screamers than kids will become yellers also…as a psychologist once told me that humans never repeat a behavior that is no rewarded …first thing right from birth is to establish that you as a parent are in charge and authority…u tell the punk..you won’t get candy..he throws a massive tantrum and gets the candy…who is in charge, what behavior did we just reinforce…very simple say what you mean and mean what you say…a no should always mean no and bad behaviours should always have consequences…be consistent don’t give mixed messages…if one day u punish him say for pushing and the next day you ignore it, that is mixed messages …for gods sake don’t yell at them, even when punishing them, keep a strong firm voice..but never yell at your child…yelling destroys billions of neurons…If you messed up the first five years then it is almost irreversible because most neuron connections are developed by age 5…to increase plasticity we have to provide a very stimulating environment full of love, nurturing and activities…lack of structure is a form of abuse and we need to provide the structure…try creating as many neuron connections as possible..that makes them smarter..

[Prairie_Girl]

Producing offsprings is not enough!!

^ very well said!

[WendyDarling]

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PG I do agree with a lot of what you’ve said and what’s been said in this thread (other than kids-free flights lol!)
There is an age when children are out of control at times. This can be during a tantrum in the toys section of target, at a party or restaurant. The terrible twos & threes is so real and the only thing you can sometimes do is to remove your child from the scene and let them calm down.
It can be challenging being a mom but there is always a solution. Children always cry for a reason, it’s our job to find out and then fix it.

But then again if I see an 8 year old acting out of control I’d be a little concerned.

[Reha]

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I am glad I am close to my nieces and nephew because kids don’t bother me on flights. I remember once Bilal got so sick on the plane he vomited. Poor little guy, what could he do? The people around my sister were sooooo understanding and tried to help her because she was traveling alone with him. The smell was unbearable but no one said a word to her…it was lucky because if there was someone who was not very tolerant of kids around…it would have become an even more difficult journey.

[Prairie_Girl]

@WendyDarling

PG I do agree with a lot of what you’ve said and what’s been said in this thread (other than kids-free flights lol!)
There is an age when children are out of control at times. This can be during a tantrum in the toys section of target, at a party or restaurant. The terrible twos & threes is so real and the only thing you can sometimes do is to remove your child from the scene and let them calm down.
It can be challenging being a mom but there is always a solution. Children always cry for a reason, it’s our job to find out and then fix it.

But then again if I see an 8 year old acting out of control I’d be a little concerned.

I agree with you Wendy!

7 year olds I’ve seen getting out of control due to their parents not giving enough attention!
Maybe these 7 year olds when 8 will be in a habit of acting out of control!
(It’s my opinion)

[Aaze]

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