we found out later on that it was his two youngest sisters who he talked to the most that told him he needs to get divorced and its the only thing to do and its the only option he has. They did not tell one single elder until he has said talaq 3 times and it could not be reversed.
The rishas i got were from a smilar cultural background to me ( which my parents really want) as in similar cast or whatever. So its a close community but i didnt know that news tavels soooooo far and wide anyway the boys mother said because she heard about what happened in our family she wasnt too sure about the rishta even though she liked me- we got this information from a mutual friend.