thank you so much.they’re very fond of me thats why they took the proposal for me, H (my fiance) never had to say it once, they are open minded so i had met them before i got engaged several times. my MIL is always inviting me because naturally she can say things to me more openly then to my mother. so i know that im not getting marrid just because their son wants me. they accept me and so does he. but i have trouble accepting his family . i** knew they were unsocial before** too and thought my mom was the exact same way. but turns out unsocial ppl like social ppl only.
stoppit and lala land : i know they are making some effort but clearly it is not at all enough, specially with my lil sisters in laws it seems nothing . my MIL is very quiet and reserved i know known her for 2 years so she talks to me but otherwise she just doesnt know wat to talk about. i can tell bcz like her im not very social too and my mom too. my mom understands that shes quiet but then has a prob too. i know my father in law shud interact more because hes not very quiet but he is very busy in office..
Your in-laws like you for who you are - why should they change their temperment/socializing to suit you? See your own comments above - they do a lot for you, but you don’t like that they’re not as social as your sister’s in-laws? That’s unfair to them - why should they change their demeanour so they can meet an arbitrary standard that your sister’s in-laws have set.
Remember to always be grateful for what Allah has blessed you (loving in-laws) with and to not express na-shukrapana.