I know this guy. His parents took him back home to get married (obv forced, emotional blackmail) but his wife, omg his wife straightened him out like there's no tomorrow! He now runs his own business, has a beautiful family and most of all is mazbi and respects his parents! So sometimes, there IS light at the end of the tunnel.
This is just an exception. You should not expect roses when you plant is a thornberry bush.
To be honest, I think 75% of such guys do straighten out after marriage. 25% end up as perpetual losers.
A lot of guys in Pakistan, who grow up as spoiled brats, go into their teens in the same way.....smoke cigarettes, drink beer, alcohol, womanize, race around in their dad's cars, flunk in college, but pay their way to passing grades. And when they get into practical life, their transformation begins for the better. And once they get married, their transformation is so complete that none of their college friends can imagine that THIS guy can hold down a job and raise a family!
Whether the transformation is because of age, or because of marriage (and its associated responsibilities), or because of social and cultural factors, fact is, people in Pakistan rely a lot on these factors to help 'fix' their errant kids. Almost every parent that you talk to, who has a spoiled brat for a son, will offer similar solutions (shadi ho gi to theek ho jaye ga)(job shuroo karay ga to theek ho jaye ga). And sadly enough, they are right. It works most of the time.
But why take such a huge risk?
Why marry a guy who is a loser and ruin the life of an innocent girl and children?
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^ Because as Silaaj mentioned unfortunately this works most of the time, so its a safe risk to take. Besides, who cares if the girl's life gets ruined anyway?
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I forgot..girls are like kleenexes right? Aik nahi tau aur sahi? :)
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once a trouble-maker,always a trouble maker....
there might be exceptions when marriage,kids and family make him a better person but its not what always happens....
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if we believe that we should not expect a person to change after marriage, why is it okay to expect that they guy will buck up and begin performing?
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^ Statistics.
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^ not good enough to gamble your life on......
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Correct, if its the girl making the decision. However if its her parents making decisions for her they usually seem to be pretty comfortable with the odds.
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yeah...so true.....perhaps because they may have used the same logic with their own son.....