Problem between fiance & me ~ Am I being unfair?

[chocolatefiend]

@Nutwer

Choco. It seems like your husband does not belive in extravagance, and its respectable.

It also seems you prefer a bigger, grander wedding - which from a girls perpective is also understandeble.

I suggest if you are going to pressure the engagement to go ahead - regardless of whos paying, I think fair for 50 of his family members to attend- and it is his choice who attends
the same way, (and i think where CM is coming from), you did not consult him about your guests.
If you are doing engagement, it would be equally important for both sides so thier should be balance, and 100 guests isnt just a family thing either- that is quite a number.

If fiance did not seriously prefer engagement event, and you have managed to soften him, there is only so much you can expect somoone to give. He has the right to call up to 50 of whom he wishes- but ofcourse if his sensitive guests exceed 50 then it could be an issue not calling them.

Lol, which is why it will probably be easier not to invite anybody other than both of our families (parents/siblings). Giving them a number of 50 just isn’t going to work out.

I don’t want a grand wedding, we both discussed and agreed on the wedding and we both want to have a nikah done and then follow on to the reception with a minimal number of guests. This was not decided to save costs, but purely to only have our nearest and dearest with us when we made one of the biggest steps in our life together.