He made the point that I want all my family there but don’t want his there. It’s not that I don’t want them there, it’s that I want something small with our closest family. Also I don;t see why his family friends have to be there. His response to that was that if I’m inviting my friends then why can’t his family invite their family friends. My family would not be inviting any family friends.
He doesn’t hav any problem with an engagement party that I know of, he just thinks they are a waste of money. Which to some extent I agree with which is why I had planned to keep it as small as possible. I am not backing him into a corner, I hope that I have not come across like I am forcing this on to him, I only said that I would like an engagement, to which he responded that I waned everything that how I must have seen it done somewhere else to want it for myself.