Which would you or have you sent your children to why? why not? benefits? drawbacks! etc
I'm thinking of Private school all the way. At most I would send my kids to an elementary public school, but no higher grade level. Why? More individualized attention paid to the kids in private school.
My eldest brother spent some time at private school early on, and what a difference between myself and my other brothers. He says he got the discipline at the private school. He's a nerd. smile
i think public schools are fine in lower grades and depending on the area they're fine in upper grades as well. otherwise maybe for middle/high school i would send my kids to private schools. same reason -- small class size. it makes all the difference.
as for religious schools -- um, probably not. i used to be totally against the idea. but right now i'm teaching at a jewish school and seeing how much good it does the kids, i wonder if we could make our muslim schools to this higjh a caliber, they might really be great places for the kids to be. i don't know. i strongly believe in association with different types of people. don't know what i'd do. what about you, waqas?
Salaam,
I went to a Christian primary school, a private one and I don’t see any advantages except the class sizes were small but that doesn’t really matter in primary school cuz you’re not learning much anyway… And me and my siblings were the only Desi’s there which was sh!te. 
High school was public though and so is college and I think it’s cool, plenty of Pakis here, at least I’m amongst my own kind…
When I have kids they are going to Islamic high schools (primary I’m not too bothered about), my daughters are going to girls only school and sons to boys only, that way they’d be able to concentrate on their studies more and not get up to anything dodgy, loll…
sure you are! you’re learning a lot. it affects how you do later.
i don’t know, dhulfiqar – i went to an all-girls school and plenty of girls got into “dodgy” things. it all depended on how they were raised, not where they went to school.
Home Schooling..
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Home Schooling..
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really?
For elementary and junior high
upto 7th we've debated between home schooling
and private. We do feel it's important for them
to build a confidence, self worth and understanding
of the religion and culture they are a part of
before they hit public schooling. And that kind
of religious foundation which teaches self worth
and understading of meeting divine expectations
can only be supplied by parents. After 7th grade
though they are hitting public schools, because
it teaches a child the art of dealing with people
of all backgrounds, colors and beings, and how to
continue being who they are even in a crowd. It
brings out the individuality.
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*Originally posted by Sahar02: * i don't know, dhulfiqar -- i went to an all-girls school and plenty of girls got into "dodgy" things. it all depended on how they were raised, not where they went to school.
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It’s both the way they are raised and the environment they are in as well.
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Originally posted by Aalhan: *
**For elementary and junior high
upto 7th we've debated between home schooling
and private. We do feel it's important for them
to build a confidence, self worth and understanding
of the religion and culture they are a part of
before they hit public schooling. And that kind
of religious foundation which teaches self worth
and understading of meeting divine expectations
can only be supplied by parents. After 7th grade
though they are hitting public schools, because
it teaches a child the art of dealing with people
of all backgrounds, colors and beings, and how to
continue being who they are even in a crowd. It
brings out the individuality.*
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what about the weekend Islamic schools? are there any in your area?
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*Originally posted by Dhulfiqar: *
It’s both the way they are raised and the environment they are in as well.
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i suppose there's no guarantee either way. just have to teach your kids, and then trust and respect them.
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Home Schooling..
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That’s not a bad idea, it’s much easier learning from a revision guide and going at your own pace in the comfort of your own home than at school, teachers are a waste of money and time, they just ramble on and on and nobody listens to them or revise from their notes or anything… (sorry Sahar :p)
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*Originally posted by Dhulfiqar: *
That’s not a bad idea, it’s much easier learning from a revision guide and going at your own pace in the comfort of your own home than at school, teachers are a waste of money and time, they just ramble on and on and nobody listens to them or revise from their notes or anything… (sorry Sahar :p)
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the home-schooled kids i've worked with have a really hard time adjusting and socializing,
and excuse you :) teachers, if they're good, are a great asset. there will be somethings you can't teach your kids. i assume you're not an expert in everyhing. and those standard packets they send around for homeschooled kids will keep the kids at a standard level, not high-level.
There are tons, but a couple of
hours at a weekend school every weekend or even
a few hours couple of days a week can't be expected
to teach the kid about their religion. Islam is of such
vast knowledge and grandeur. And plus no imam,
scholar can give to a kid the way parents can. If he or she
goes to weekend school and doesn't learn anything from
home where they are rest of the time and most of the time
they'll never learn anything. Religious foundations start
at home, spread at home, and extend at masjid or islamic
school, not the other way around. Parents have a
bigger responsiblity towards the religious upbringing
of the child which is far above and beyond the one
the scholar at the weekend or islamic school does.
And far deeper.
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Originally posted by Aalhan: *
**There are tons, but a couple of
hours at a weekend school every weekend or even
a few hours couple of days a week can't be expected
to teach the kid about their religion. Islam is of such
vast knowledge and grandeur. And plus no imam,
scholar can give to a kid the way parents can. If he or she
goes to weekend school and doesn't learn anything from
home where they are rest of the time and most of the time
they'll never learn anything. Religious foundations start
at home, spread at home, and extend at masjid or islamic
school, not the other way around. Parents have a
bigger responsiblity towards the religious upbringing
of the child which is far above and beyond the one
the scholar at the weekend or islamic school does.
And far deeper.*
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i agree - so teach them at home, supplement their education with a sunday school, but their regular schooling can still happen outside.
Public Schools themself may not be that bad.. it's the kind of 'public' that attands these schools.. unless you can afford to live in an expensive area with better funded public schools chances are your kids will be rubbing shoulders with a lot of other minority kids and face it, not everyone is worth socializing with.. the kids can wait on their socializing skills and the last place i'm gonna send my kids is to some 'Islamic' school to make completely confused nut jobs out of them...
Elementary schools are awesome! Private or public almost all of the ones I've been to are great!
The kids seem to get a lot more work at these lower grade levels too! But with the right teacher they love it and never realize just how much they are really learning!
Biggest problem I've seen is a lack of parents being involved in the children's lives. If they were to take a more active part in their kids lives and form a partnership with their teacher too ..all the problems would disappear.
With private elementary schools I see a lot
more parents involved.. may have to do with them actually being married and staying together as a family since most private schools are religion based.. and the kids def get more attention for sure.. but it is true most of the ethnic kids seem to be far better taken care of at home and more well behaved.
But it really depends ..most of what I've seen in the public elementary schools is really good!