so, married folks.. or ones who are going to get married soon… did u guys set out priorities (steps) to get you going in the right direction?
how did you, or do you, plan on buidling a good foundation for yourself and your spouse and future generation?
I see some folks around me who get into a bit of trouble, money wise, kids wise.. where they havent been able to set concrete priorities or steps to pan out their future… and i wonder whether they even sat down together and discussed things with one another.
Not everyone has the same path, not everyone has the same vision, but as long as u know where u want to be in the end… and know of the major steps u need to take, and actually discuss these with the significant other, things do work out..
also, building in the “what ifs” the roadblocks, the negatives.. and how to deal with them… do people discuss these or incoporate these into their plans of reaching their goal(s)?
so how did u do it as a couple… or how will u do it?
For us it came into regular conversations, hearing each others thoughts on life and how to live. We agreed on a lot of things like living simply and saving what we can for a rainy day. I'm glad we've always done that because life comes with unexpected financial strains like unemployment and sudden major expenses and we've learned to get by without too much stress Alhumdulillah. With kids it's a bit different, we had a general idea about how we'd raise them but we didn't know how much life changes with them, so we've learned to deal with things as they come.
I'm not surprised that there weren't that many replies to this thread.......
Perhaps people don't think of these types of things as much as they focus on what colour their outfits will be and whether or not they will get to pick them or if MIL will do it.
I, for one, will spend a great deal of effort teaching my child about the pitfalls of failing to plan.......
In my case , both hubby and I have been very clear from the beginning , I know my priorities are kids ( inshallah ) , husband and family and then career ... for hubby , its our well being and career ....
We both got lucky coz we are pretty much alike in maintaining simplicity .. the rest we talk and plan things out and alhamdullillah life is working out well ..
Planning and setting goals does take us a long way ahead ...
yeah since i'm not married ... i can't really say i did things but yea i would let my to be wife that lissen we gotta put xyz amount out of my income for savings and this much for mortgage that much for this and that and rest is spending and watever shez makin its her money she can use 20$ bills as toiler paper and i wldn't really mind (well i kinda wld but u get the point) ... and same with other responsibilities such as shez gotta be the social face of the house and i can be driver and just like CB said that family and hten career for her and not because her career is imp but because i think women are better home makers than men and because i think women are more sensitive in general and can pick up childern's needs and if they're into something bad far quicker than men do ... obviously there are exceptions ofcourse