Out of a sense of false humility, if someone compliments you or says you’re intelligent, well-informed, pretty/handsome, successful, or just plain old a really nice person - do you go: Aww, shucks and say no, I’m not really that ___________, when in fact you know you are exactly what they described you as?
Are you doing anyone a favour by denying what is the truth or pretending to be less than you are?
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I don't it is about doing anyone a favour.
I think it is more about being down to earth or humbleness. Or not knowing how to react :p
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Out of a sense of false humility, if someone compliments you or says you're intelligent, well-informed, pretty/handsome, successful, or just plain old a really nice person - do you go: Aww, shucks and say no, I'm not really that ___________, when in fact you know you are exactly what they described you as?
Are you doing anyone a favour by denying what is the truth or pretending to be less than you are?
I always say "I know" and lift my nose up in the air but apparently no one appreciates honesty!
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I don't it is about doing anyone a favour.
I think it is more about being down to earth or humbleness. Or not knowing how to react :p
yeah, for me it's about not knowing how to react :/
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Please sweetie, in your case, pretending to be anything less than you are is practically impossible.
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and you would know about this feeling very well wouldn't you TLK?
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Awww, I hurt someones feelings.
babies
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oh please. like i give any importance to what you say, nevermind getting hurt by you.
go away now.
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chup kaor. I am ignoring you by pretending to check my txt msgs.
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its okay, i forgive you
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One should simply avoid getting compliments. =/
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I just say "thank you." and smile.
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I usually don’t know how to react:bummer:
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maybe sometimes...you're not pretending?
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Out of a sense of false humility, if someone compliments you or says you're intelligent, well-informed, pretty/handsome, successful, or just plain old a really nice person - do you go: Aww, shucks and say no, I'm not really that ___________, when in fact you know you are exactly what they described you as?
Are you doing anyone a favour by denying what is the truth or pretending to be less than you are?
Interesting!. Well I for one genuinely feel humble if someone's complement me. But i am quick to remind them that only Allah knows yo!. I can pretend to be someone nice but i am really not and perhaps make tons of mistakes!.
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If I know that what they're saying is accurate, I just thank them and let them know that I appreciate the compliment. False humility is annoying and can come off as fake.
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Good topic. Its cultural. Us off the boat folks may be better able to relate.
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It’s either (like Le Pakistan mentioned)…not knowing how to react OR honestly not believing that the compliment is deserved.
For example I usually have the radio on/off and sometimes will hear something and later on someone will ask or talk about the same thing and I might chime in during the conversation…this actually happens quite a lot. People have gotten the impression that I am well-informed about a variety of subjects…while I just think of it as ‘remembering random stuff from the radio’…
OR the ‘oh you’re so smart!’ when you score good on a quiz that was straight from the chapter you were supposed to read the night before…I really don’t think I’m all that smart…I think of it more as I got lucky (that I actually happened to read the reading as scheduled) 
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Sometimes I just smile and say thank you, other times I do say "No I'm not all that but still thank you". Because I know I'm not.
And I don't think it's false humility, it's more on the lines of I-know-myself-better-than-you-know-me. :(
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It becomes a practices of selflessness, I read a story about 3 Sufis in Baghdad who hid all over the city when they heard that they were going to be selected for high military posts and that it would bring them great status in society. They did so out of humility and that their minds might not get distracted in haughtiness.