Pressure from In-Laws to Have Kids!!!

[Paheli00]

Re: Pressure from In-Laws to Have Kids!!!

So your husband and you enjoy life with nothing to worry about huh?

I’m going to copy/paste here parts from a thread you started 2 months ago. Did you already resolve all those issues? Do you respect your husband? How is your self-esteem right now? You do realize pregnancy/child birth will take a toll on your body and will it even harder for you to look anything close to women in those porn movies right? You already know having a child will make it harder for you to get divorced. Is your husband now the type of man who you’re comfortable with being the father for your children? Maybe your husband suddenly wants you to have a baby so you’ll be too busy to nag him about his porn habit…what then?

@pakieyez

My relationship with my husband just doesn’t seem right anymore. I have caught my husband watching porn on numerous occasions, and because of this he denies it causing him to lie until I of course show him the proof, to which I have literally lost all respect for him.

I am at a point in my life where I don’t know whether to leave him, meaning divorce, or to accept it and move on living with the fact that he will just do it forever.

My main point is, he doesn’t see how hurt I am by this…to stop watching porn and looking at other women. If your significant other is so hurt by our actions that our relationship is at stake then we should do whatever we can to fix ourselves right? This has been going on for literally 3 years, where I have fought with him almost every 2 weeks about this.

My self confidence is shattered…I feel ugly all the time. I literally want to be the other women that he looks at in shopping malls, rather than his wife. I want to have the body of the porn star that he looks at…all these thoughts come into my mind everyday shattering my self-worth of what I am to myself.

I have lost so much self-respect for him where he has lied so much, not caring that lying and be dishonest with your spouse is wrong for the relationship. Mind you this has been going on for 3 years since day 1.

**I don’t daydream of myself having children with him (don’t have children yet) because I don’t see him as the type to be the “ideal father” for my kids. **

Sometimes I feel like I should just get out of this relationship while I don’t have children as if I end up having a child, then it would be harder to get a divorce. I am also relatively young at 26. I feel like I could get remarried, however the whole “divorce” in my family and culture is such a big deal. I don’t want my parents to go through all that humiliation of people gossiping when I get a divorce.