Presence of 3, 4 ot 5 marriagable sisters

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Re: Presence of 3, 4 ot 5 marriagable sisters

@Sara516

I would say no, because I wouldn’t want to be part of a family that doesn’t encourage their daughters to stand on their own two feet and place teh burden on the parents/brothers to marry them off.

Brother/parents have every right to help out and give gifts and whatnot to their daughters/sisters, but it should be on a want-to basis, not a have-to.

I think I land on the other side of this debate. For girls raised outside of Pakistan, unless our parents/family are super-conservative, most of us can work and save money for the wedding we want. We can potentially also take control of our future and look meet our own for guy for marriage (this assumes parents are not super-traditional).

But the situation in Pakistan is totally different. While some girls work, I’m not sure that the majority of girls work and therefore they cannot save for their wedding. And unfortunately, even a modest wedding isn’t cheap in Pakistan and there are always social expectations connected to a wedding. Added to that, arranged marriages zindabad in Pakistan - so the girls have a more difficult time meeting a potential husband on their own - they are reliant on the family to secure their future.

So the social norms place the burden on the brother/family for the daughters.

I guess going back to the original question - I can only speak for myself, but I agree so long as my husband can provide for our family, I would not resent, and would in fact encourage him to help support his sisters for their marriage. That being said, the sister’s ain’t getting the 6 lakh Bunto jora!