Presence of 3, 4 ot 5 marriagable sisters

[Sara516]

Re: Presence of 3, 4 ot 5 marriagable sisters

@Sehrysh

I think I land on the other side of this debate. For girls raised outside of Pakistan, unless our parents/family are super-conservative, most of us can work and save money for the wedding we want. We can potentially also take control of our future and look meet our own for guy for marriage (this assumes parents are not super-traditional).

But the situation in Pakistan is totally different. While some girls work, I’m not sure that the majority of girls work and therefore they cannot save for their wedding. And unfortunately, even a modest wedding isn’t cheap in Pakistan and there are always social expectations connected to a wedding. Added to that, arranged marriages zindabad in Pakistan - so the girls have a more difficult time meeting a potential husband on their own - they are reliant on the family to secure their future.

So the social norms place the burden on the brother/family for the daughters.

I guess going back to the original question - I can only speak for myself, but I agree so long as my husband can provide for our family, I would not resent, and would in fact encourage him to help support his sisters for their marriage. That being said, the sister’s ain’t getting the 6 lakh Bunto jora!

I totally agree with you. I guess I"m looking at it from a very basic perspective

If women were encouraged to be educated and stand on their own two feet, life wouldn’t be so difficult…in so many ways.

Unfortunatley they’re not, our people are stuck in teh mindset that: a girl meeting female friends = slut.